Share your pesach chumrot & minhagim

Bnei Berak 10

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 1:37 am

I'm fascinated by traditions and different chumrot and minhagim with Am Israel has and I'm always asking around (when holidays are coming up) if people want to tell me what kind of chumrot or hanhagot they had in their parents house or grandparents. Very interesting to hear from different people!

Some people peel everything/don't eat fish/don't eat chicken on pesach. Do/did you have any chumrot/minhagim? Did your great grandmother always speak of how they celebrated pesach in "the old country"?
No bashing please, this post is simply for curiosities.

amother

Slateblue

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 4:21 am

No chumrot. But my MIL only eats produce that were peeled and doesn't eat any garlic on pesach.

thunderstorm

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 5:36 am

Our family minhag is to make Pesach easier than the way we grew up.
Our parents are BT and Geirim and took on extreme chumros thinking that this is what everyone does.
My DHs parents also Geirim change every year with their minhagim. So since there is officially no tradition, we created our own. My siblings did the same. We all made our Pesachs more enjoyable and less stressful. To us, that is the most important tradition to pass on to my kids... enjoying the holiday and not resenting it.

moonstone

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 6:04 am

No chumrot, we eat everything. No way could I survive without my matza brei and matza with butter or cream cheese!

amother

Denim

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 6:19 am

This is my favorite part
At the Seder
After we split the afikoman by yachatz, each person has a chance to hold the afikoman and is asked in Arabic
Where are you coming from
Where are you going
What do you have to eat.
Also
During magid we each get a chance to hold the afikoman on our shoulder, symbolizing the riches we took out of mitzrayim.
3rd when the wine is spilled for Makot we don't look, and someone escorts DH with the spilled wine to flush down the toilet.
My mom use to say if you look you'll get lice, LOL.

Another one is that during Ma Nishtana an unmarried girl takes the Kearah out of the room, segulah to get married that year. DD is still waiting

etky

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 6:20 am

The fact that we don't eat kitniyot, in a country where half the Jewish population does, is chumrah enough for me....

keym

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 6:49 am

We are extremely makpid on gebrochts. We eat matza first, then roll up the plastic before we set and serve the rest of the meal.
Seder each boy over 5-6 has their own Kearah. the kearah itself serves as a serving platter for the karpas, marror, charoses and salt water.
2nd seder we count sefirah before seder starts.
We keep our shoes on the whole seder (no slippers) so we could "be ready to leave mitzrayim at a moments notice".
We buy or make candy, cake, fruit, and nuts special for the seder and give the kids constantly to keep them awake and not kvetchy.
Seder night is also the only time they may bring toys right by the table (cleaned). We want them to hear and participate even when they cant sit at the table anymore.

flowerpower

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:02 am

We don't eat gebrokts
We don't eat unpeeled produce
No garlic
We use the basics for baking( not even baking powder or vanilla sugar)
We eat hand baked overpriced matzah
I don't eat bought snacks/ cookies since we don't "mish"

simba

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:04 am

pesek zman wrote:

Our family minhag BH is to go away for yom tov. We haven't stayed home since 1994. BH

Are you adopting? I am available!
I don't think imamothers server can hold all our chumros! Let's suffice it to say we eat nothing and yes, I lose weight on pesach.

Bnei Berak 10

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:05 am

flowerpower wrote:

What does "mish" mean?

SixOfWands

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:05 am

flowerpower wrote:

I don't eat bought snacks/ cookies since we don't "mish"

What is mish?

simba

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:08 am

SixOfWands wrote:

What is mish?

It means mix, basically you won't eat at anyone else's house. Even if they keep the same standards as you.

little neshamala

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:12 am

keym wrote:

Seder night is also the only time they may bring toys right by the table (cleaned). We want them to hear and participate even when they cant sit at the table anymore.

Love this

SixOfWands

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:14 am

simba wrote:

It means mix, basically you won't eat at anyone else's house. Even if they keep the same standards as you.

Thanks. for the information.

simcha2

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 8:08 am

simba wrote:

It means mix, basically you won't eat at anyone else's house. Even if they keep the same standards as you.

I'm asking this fully respectfully, but can you elaborate on this.

Does this mean you won't go to someone else or does it also mean you won't have guests over to you?

Where does this minhag come from? Korban Pesach was the only meal where halachically you had to get together with another family if you wouldn't be able to eat the whole korban.

Thanks

amother

Dodgerblue

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 8:11 am

simcha2 wrote:

Not only was the Korban Pesach eaten in groups, the hagadda begins by inviting guests to join us. The custom of the Jewish people was to have guests.

amother

Pumpkin

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 8:14 am

simcha2 wrote:

different poster we wont eat by others but do have guests. Being that we have many chumrahs it wouldn't work to eat by others

keym

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 8:14 am

We dont eat any prepared foods anywhere but immediate family (except emergencies). Since everyone has different standards of cooking, cleaning, kashering, and minhagim its hard to say yes to you, no to you.
However the korban pesach was eaten traditionally in family groups so most dont have any "mishing" problem.
As an aside, the korban pesach was the least problematic- whole, roasted outside on a fresh branch as a spit.
About having guests- anyone who wants to eat is welcome to our standards or bring your own food.

leah233

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 8:16 am

We are makpid to eat the Afikomen and machmir to say Hallel before Chatzos.

Even if/though it means zooming through Shulchan Orech and starting the Seder the minute my husband comes from shul.The second night we usually can't start that minute but somehow less gets said by the hagadah.

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