Lakewood girls HS... I want to cry :(

amother

Sun, Aug 29 2021, 7:32 pm

I've been following the other thread with the imas whose daughters still aren't in school and I just.... Surprised

How is it possible for a community to fail its girls like this? Not just once but every. single. year.
And then they wonder why so many kids go off the derech? like DUH. Their community just slapped these girls in the face and told them they weren't wanted.

amother

Slateblue

Sun, Aug 29 2021, 9:00 pm

I agree it’s horrible. But really they can not keep up with the growth. I mean people have been saying this for years and people just keep moving here. What are they supposed to do? Every time I see more houses being built, I’m just like - seriously?! It seems new elementary schools are popping up all over the place, but for some reason it’s not the same with high schools. I’m not sure why.

#BestBubby

Sun, Aug 29 2021, 9:01 pm

The solution is to open more high schools.

But that is very expensive as HS needs many different teachers + lost of extra curricular.

But this is Pikuach Nefesh and Kiruv Rechokim as these rejected girls are high risk of OTD.

amother

Mon, Aug 30 2021, 3:42 pm

What if instead of people building bigger and bigger houses every year and buying fancier cars and more expensive eternity bands, they put some of that money back into their community? If not new schools, then donate to the old schools so they can expand and have more girls?
Radical, I know.
But why is nobody fundraising for this? Is our chinuch habanos- the literal LIVES of these girls- less important than any other cause?
Believe me, if it was the daughters of the so-called 'vaad' not getting into schools, they would be all over this.

amother

Lightgray

Mon, Aug 30 2021, 3:47 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Have you been to lakewood ever? No one has fancy cars or eternity bands. People aren't really renovating most houses are built by builders who then sell them so you buy what's available at the moment. And people do pour money into the community in many ways. School is still an issue but not for the reasons you think.

amother

Impatiens

Mon, Aug 30 2021, 4:03 pm

amother [ Lightgray ] wrote:

We must be from a different side of town. Where I live people are growing money in their backyards. Come visit!

amother

Celeste

Mon, Aug 30 2021, 4:08 pm

amother [ Lightgray ] wrote:

Have you been to Lakewood ever? Because you really don't know what's going on in Lakewood, Toms River, Jackson... There are mansions going up all over and plenty of fancy cars. My brother lives in a very yeshivish newish area and you can count the houses on your fingers that haven't been renovated and enlarged. B"H Lakewood is booming. Could be people's first priority isn't giving to girls schools as people feel they are already paying tuition...but other Chessed organization are supported generously by the community.

amother

Lightgray

Mon, Aug 30 2021, 4:11 pm

amother [ Celeste ] wrote:

Yeah I live here. Do you?

amother

Clear

Mon, Aug 30 2021, 4:11 pm

amother [ Lightgray ] wrote:

We must live in very different parts of Lakewood.

amother

Clear

Mon, Aug 30 2021, 4:14 pm

amother [ Lightgray ] wrote:

Yeah I live here. Do you?

I live here too. Lakewood is catching up really quickly with the consumer upper class Jewish society....

I'm not against people spending their money as they please, gezunteheit. I AM against prioritizing absolutely everything before our daughters' chinuch.

Ema of 5

Mon, Aug 30 2021, 4:24 pm

I don’t live in Lakewood, so maybe I shouldn’t comment, but I’ll give my two cents anyway. The problem is two-fold. Parents only want “certain” schools, and schools only want “certain” kids. Many of the schools in Lakewood are “in the box” type of schools. They won’t take a girl if the mother wears nail polish, or leggings, or no socks/stockings, etc. Ant of course parents only want to send to the best schools. The issue that I see is that any school that’s not an “in the box” school is automatically looked at as lesser than, even when it would really be a great fit for so many people.
My friend in a different community was telling me how in her community, every child- boy and girl- needs to apply to three schools. Every child is guaranteed to get into one of those schools. Yes, it’s a smaller community, but they make it work.

amother

Stonewash

Mon, Aug 30 2021, 4:29 pm

Op you inspired me. I’m going to look into donating to this new school.
You are right. Until now I’ve been viewing it as , well I pay my tuition so all schools should have their parent body pay up. But you’re right- it’s a community responsibility to make sure there are no korbanos in the form of sweet young girls being humiliated like this.

amother

Clear

Mon, Aug 30 2021, 4:30 pm

Ema of 4 wrote:

Maybe this was the problem twenty years ago, but that horse has LONG since left the barn.

I have made numerous posts explaining the problems here and I'm just tired of explaining.

But yes, here in Lakewood they do have to apply to a minimum of three high schools (I think Bais Shaindel is not counted as one) and the high schools really DO stretch to take in all kinds of girls that they would not necessarily have taken. And this is not necessarily ideal, vihameiven yavin.