Ds5 wakes up the whole house so I can clean him

amother

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 11:22 am

Ds 5 has started waking everyone up early in the morning when he goes to the bathroom to poop. I reminded him several times that he can’t wake us up so early. I taught him how to clean himself but he just ignores me and yells loudly, rudely awakening everyone. How do I deal with this?

amother

Stone

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 11:23 am

If you have a master bathroom, have him use your bathroom so he doesn't have to yell.

amother

Mustard

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 11:27 am

Tell him to come tell you before he goes to the bathroom. Then you can either wait right outside until he's ready for you or you can tell him to just call you one time and you will come right away.

amother

Babypink

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:13 pm

I get so annoyed when my 5yo wakes me up to poop in the morning. Can't wipe himself yet so now I tell him to make, pull up, wash his hands and then I'll wipe him when I get up

amother

Mustard

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:16 pm

A 5ys old is still young enough to need help in the bathroom. I get it that you may really need your sleep I just can't imagine not attending to a child's needs in this way.

amother

Glitter

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:19 pm

amother Babypink wrote:

I get so annoyed when my 5yo wakes me up to poop in the morning. Can't wipe himself yet so now I tell him to make, pull up, wash his hands and then I'll wipe him when I get up

PLEASE TELL ME THIS IS A JOKE

smss

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:19 pm

amother Mustard wrote:

A 5ys old is still young enough to need help in the bathroom. I get it that you may really need your sleep I just can't imagine not attending to a child's needs in this way.

5 year olds are kindergarten age.
They won't be getting help wiping at school, so it's important that they know how to wipe themselves.

OP this blog post might be helpful:
https://busytoddler.com/how-to.....wipe/

amother

Cyclamen

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:19 pm

amother Mustard wrote:

A 5ys old is still young enough to need help in the bathroom. I get it that you may really need your sleep I just can't imagine not attending to a child's needs in this way.

I can. A five year old may not get it perfect, but should be able to make an attempt.

My focus would be figuring out how to shift his ‘timing’.

amother

Stone

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:23 pm

smss wrote:

They don't get help in school, which is why many kids don't go in school. They got their bodies used to not going in school.

amother

Papaya

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:24 pm

Tell him to take a toy and sit there and play until you wake up. Check the bathroom right away so he sees he can trust you to come right away.

amother

Stone

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:24 pm

amother Babypink wrote:

I get so annoyed when my 5yo wakes me up to poop in the morning. Can't wipe himself yet so now I tell him to make, pull up, wash his hands and then I'll wipe him when I get up

Oy poor child.... what did he ever do to deserve this?

amother

Stone

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:26 pm

amother Papaya wrote:

Tell him to take a toy and sit there and play until you wake up. Check the bathroom right away so he sees he can trust you to come right away.

Seriously? And what if OP gets up 1/2 hour, or more, later???
I hope those that are giving such bad advice don't actually do this to their children.

smss

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:27 pm

amother Stone wrote:

They don't get help in school, which is why many kids don't go in school. They got their bodies used to not going in school.

That's a reason not to teach them how?

amother

Stone

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:31 pm

smss wrote:

That's a reason not to teach them how?

Many 5 year olds don't know how to wipe properly if they're taught how. 5 is still a normal age to need help, especially for kids that are more messy in the bathroom.

amother

Wandflower

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:33 pm

amother OP wrote:

I will come and wipe you after you ask me in a quieter voice.

amother

Papaya

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:35 pm

amother Stone wrote:

Seriously? And what if OP gets up 1/2 hour, or more, later???
I hope those that are giving such bad advice don't actually do this to their children.

Really?!? My kids voluntarily sit on the toilet chilling for an hour. I have to chase them out. Sheesh some of you are just ridiculous. Nothing will happen to a kid that sits on the toilet for half an hour.

amother

Glitter

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:42 pm

amother Papaya wrote:

You are FORCING them to sit on the toilet for a half hour???????

amother

Papaya

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:44 pm

amother Glitter wrote:

You are FORCING them to sit on the toilet for a half hour???????

Totally the end of the world. Asking a kid not to wake up the house and sit quietly and play instead. Oh the horrors. Sometimes I can’t believe it’s real people posting here.

amother

Stone

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:47 pm

amother Papaya wrote:

For an hour? Really? Little kids?
And don't you get the difference between a kid wanting to do it on their own vs a mom that's forcing her child to do it because she can't be bothered???
Yes, it's ridiculous for a parent to force a child to sit on the toilet, dirtied, for an extended period of time, because they can't be bothered to come help them. That is crazy.

amother

Glitter

Fri, Jul 14 2023, 3:48 pm

amother Papaya wrote:

Totally the end of the world. Asking a kid not to wake up the house and sit quietly and play instead. Oh the horrors. Sometimes I can’t believe it’s real people posting here.

Horror is the correct word!
They cannot move!