Sleep training - babysleepmaven

amother

Amethyst

Sun, Jan 07 2024, 11:22 pm

Yes it worked wonders for my baby.
I do think it is expensive and it is drawn out to justify the price. The pdf should be enough, although I watched the video and found the pdf was exactly the same...

amother

Snowflake

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 6:04 am

Thank you.
Did you find you saw results fairly quickly?
Are there long stretches of crying involved?
Did you keep or remove your child's paci? (If they had one...)
How old was your child when you did it?

amother

Amethyst

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 9:05 am

My baby was really difficult from when he was born. At 7 months I moved him out of my room, but it didn't help. He woke up every 2.5 hours to nurse and it took at least an hour to fall back asleep. At 8 months I had been with a sis in law for shabbos and he woke up around 2.5 hours after he had eaten. She had taken this course and begged me not to go to him. It took 6 minutes of crying- but he woke up 7 hours later!!!
The course involves crying for up to 10 minutes. The 1st 2 nights he cried more than 10 min (you keep going in to reassure him). By the 3rd night it was like 6 minutes. By a week, he maybe whimpered to sleep but he slept through the night!!! Like 13 hours!!!! Bh he has since! If he wakes up in middle of the night, it's cuz he has an ear infection or teething.
I realize now that first of all, he didn't know how to put himself to sleep. He used to use me to fall asleep. Also, he sometimes cried in his sleep. By me taking him out- I was waking him up!!! It's painful to hear a baby cry, but you need to know why he's crying and what is best for him....

amother

Amethyst

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 9:07 am

I see I didn't respond about the pacifier. My baby had stages on and off of taking his pacifier. When I sleep trained him he didn't have one. But after a week I reintroduced it, I wanted something that would help him self soothe and he took it graciously!

amother

Cerulean

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 9:04 pm

missmuffetsmum wrote:

Has anyone used the sleep training video course from babysleepmaven and would be willing to give me a bit more info about it?

I did it
I didnt follow it perfectly but I did her check in method where the baby cries and you check in every 9 minutes
It worked and bh my child is still a good sleeper. better then the child who I didnt sleep train.

amother

Phlox

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 10:23 pm

Letting a baby cry for 9 minutes isn’t ok. You don’t need a course to know that.
Edited to add, I don’t know anything about this course, I was commenting on letting babies cry, which is wrong.

amother

Phlox

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 10:28 pm

amother Amethyst wrote:

Poor baby.

amother

Phlox

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 11:16 pm

smss wrote:

That was a nasty thing to say and you know it or you wouldn't have gone amother.

It’s not nasty. I feel sorry for a baby who woke up after 2.5 hours and had needs and was left to cry. It’s just sad.

amother

Amethyst

Tue, Jan 16 2024, 12:33 am

I always say someone that hasn't done it, had no need to do it. My baby did not know how to regulate himself and that's why he cried. Since I sleep trained him he's a much happier kid, and I'm a functional mom. He is also on a much healthier schedule. He does not need a bottle to sleep. He knows at bedtime he finds a comfortable position and goes to sleep. Even if takes time. If he cries I know he has an ear infection. It is such nachas to see (I have a video camera by his crib) him get into bed, relax and talk to himself to unwind. Sometimes not letting the baby cry is abusive. When I let my baby cry- that first night and every night since he slept so much better and deeper.
Again, if you can't imagine doing it- you haven't experienced such a difficult baby. Don't judge.

amother

Snowflake

Tue, Jan 16 2024, 3:30 am

tichellady - I don't believe this is full-on Ferber method, but will look into it further. Thanks.

amother amethyst - I totally agree! My baby is miserable when he can't put himself back to sleep - if I try pat him, he pushes my hand off. If I try hold him, he pushes away and tries to get back into his cot. If I leave, he screams louder. He just wants to sleep! And yes, so do I.

amother phlox - Either you can cope on no sleep or your baby isn't as hard. I promise my 9mo doesn't need food every 2 hours, and he evidently doesn't want me either. My baby is well-loved and does not need your sympathy.

amother

Phlox

Tue, Jan 16 2024, 12:29 pm

amother Snowflake wrote:

I have had a couple of difficult babies. Letting them cry wasn’t the answer though.

amother

Poppy

Tue, Jan 16 2024, 12:37 pm

It's complicated
I heard a rav say some issues come out later bc babies are being left to cry ...it can sometimes cause attachment issues
Either way ...the rav was saying he feels a big connection between sleep training and kids going off and trouble later on

amother

Lotus

Tue, Jan 16 2024, 1:00 pm

I bought it and found it to be a waste. Its basically the Ferber method just marketed to be more "gentle" but it is really not. She says to let them cry for a lot more than 10 minutes! If the baby stops even for a second you're supposed to reset the timer so it could go on for a while. I did not feel comfortable doing it so I can't say if it works or not but know what you're getting into. It isn't gentle at all