DS and Dd need sharing hotel room for pesach

amother

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 7:35 am

I know- first world problems and it really isn't, but ideas please. Going away for pesach (yay) but will need to put 22 year old dd and 18 year old ds in the same room. DD not thrilled, but we can not paying for another room just for her.

Ideas for making the sleep arrangements more comfortable?

Iymnok

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 7:37 am

Is there another family with a similar problem that you could do boys and girls rooms?
Yeah, awkward with a stranger. But maybe better.

abound

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 7:38 am

I would not do it....

Get a string and hang up a curtain across the room.

If she would be married you would pay for another room....
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fleetwood

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 7:38 am

Honestly, I would sleep with dd and have hubby sleep with ds Its only a week..no biggie .

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amother

Nasturtium

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 7:39 am

When families I know have this issue, Ima sleeps with the girls and Abba sleeps with the boys.

amother

Glitter

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 7:40 am

Sorry, really not appropriate. You need to figure something else out. Your daughter can share a room with you and your husband can share a room with your son.

amother

Yellow

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 7:49 am

I don't know if this is allowed halachically but it's definitely not preferable in any way. Dh and I split the rooms by girls and boys when we go to a hotel, and we split up as well.

amother

Forestgreen

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 7:50 am

Really not appropriate. Either have both in your room or split you with daughter, husband with son.

amother

Chartreuse

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 7:52 am

Why cant you sleep with DD and your dh sleeps with DS?

greenteaorange

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 7:56 am

Idk my family would go on family vacations and share rooms boys and girls don’t think it’s so crazy in this circumstance
Have you gone away before and what did you do

amother

Steel

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 8:08 am

Maybe you can buy this and bring it along?

https://a.co/d/70eWC5V

amother

Sunflower

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 8:08 am

greenteaorange wrote:

Idk my family would go on family vacations and share rooms boys and girls don’t think it’s so crazy in this circumstance
Have you gone away before and what did you do

There’s “boys and girl” and then there’s an adult boy and girl.

Super inappropriate in my opinion. I would either pay for another room or split a different way.

amother

Peru

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 8:09 am

Don't do it.
It's not a good idea and your daughter has already expressed to you that she is not comfortable! What are you teaching her?

amother

Sunflower

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 8:11 am

Also not sure where you fall religiously but no rav in my community would allow this- JPF.

amother

Springgreen

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 8:13 am

I wouldn’t do it, if there were several other siblings maybe but definitely not alone it’s too awkward. My parents wanted me and my brother similar ages to share a room on a family trip. I said I wasn’t ok with it and the Rav was on my side. This is was even only 1 or 2 night, an entire Pesach is so much harder.

readreread

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 8:22 am

Even if a Rav tells you it's ok I don't think you should do it, just out of respect for your daughter, who has already said it makes her uncomfortable. I don't think it's wise to teach her that expressing discomfort about this kind of thing is not allowed and will be ignored.

singleagain

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 8:26 am

Personally I don't see a big deal and would totally share a room with my single brother.

That being said since your DD expressed discomfort and is 22... Does she have her own money that she could get her own room?

amother

Phlox

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 8:27 am

amother Sunflower wrote:

Also not sure where you fall religiously but no rav in my community would allow this- JPF.

I really can’t see why not?
In the olden days everyone slept in one room didn’t they???
Have you actually asked or just presume??
Even not such olden days we went to a one bedroom bungalow for the summers 30 years ago and all kids slept together.

Eta I’m chassidish but never actually asked.

amother

Blueberry

Mon, Jan 08 2024, 8:30 am

amother Phlox wrote:

There's a difference between everyone in 1 room and just 2 young adults of opposite genders sharing a room