Anyone else think it's gotten out of hand?

amother

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 3:04 pm

All these fundraisers left and right, people sending me links to donate to their fund, to help them reach their goal...

amother

Feverfew

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 3:06 pm

yes, also if you don't support my cause, why are you asking me to support yours?

amother

Goldenrod

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 3:08 pm

That's how fundraising works. I don't think it's out of hand. I ignore most and give to the ones I want to give to. People are able to raise a lot of money this way and it's successful. Why can't you choose what to give to and what not to give to?

amother

Obsidian

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 3:09 pm

amother Feverfew wrote:

yes, also if you don't support my cause, why are you asking me to support yours?

I agree that the sending links business is out of hand, however I disagree with not contributing to someone's cause because they didn't contribute to yours. That's very petty. Do what works for you without thinking about everyone else.

amother

Feverfew

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 3:12 pm

amother Obsidian wrote:

I agree that the sending links business is out of hand, however I disagree with not contributing to someone's cause because they didn't contribute to yours. That's very petty.

I did the opposite. I sent a link to a good friend for a close relative that was struggling. she ignored it. a few months later she sent me a link for a huge organization that she collects for every year and I gave her a very generous donation. I'm not petty and I didnt think of it till this thread popped up. but yea, it feels out of hand.

justforfun87

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 3:13 pm

It's very annoying. At first it was one or two schools now it's for every single organization. The policy is if we haven't spoken in 6 months, don't send me a link.

amother

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 3:15 pm

amother Goldenrod wrote:

It's pretty recent that everyone raising for their kids schools etc... a few years ago, people still felt like shnorers doing that, now there no shame! And people post rude posts on their status like " I see you looking at my status, come on what are you waiting for?" or the people that what's app you, then text, then send reminders?!?

amother

Obsidian

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 3:20 pm

amother OP wrote:

Welcome to 2024 where busha in general has long flown out the window and has been replaced by chutzpah.

amother

Moonstone

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 3:59 pm

Goodness!

I warned 2 friends of mine that I will be sending them campaign requests next week, Im doing my duty but they should feel free to ignore.

You think everyone enjoys doing these fundraisers?
No one likes to schnorrer

They have to, because they are connected to these mosdos or organisations.

Most times they arent given a choice!

amother

Celeste

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 4:05 pm

What about when it's on every single family group, and the person doesn't stop?

amother

Garnet

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 4:05 pm

amother Obsidian wrote:

Welcome to 2024 where busha in general has long flown out the window and has been replaced by chutzpah.

The money I raise for my kids school is not coming off my tuition. I pay full tuition. I’m in a school where most of the parents are simple and of little means. Whatever you donate goes toward the most devoted sincere selfless rebbeim you ever met. They don’t get paid well, it’s not a fancy school.

amother

Daylily

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 4:06 pm

Also I think someone called recently from a organization which I never heard of and said “can you match last years $50”

Rubbed me the wrong way. Maybe I have terrible memory but I really never heard of it. There a a few that I know I donate to yearly.

pause

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 4:07 pm

What I think is the concept of tzedaka for aniyim has been replaced with money for organizations. Those two are not the same thing!

amother

Seagreen

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 4:11 pm

Having just been involved in an unsuccessful fundraiser, I hear both sides.

Yes it can get annoying and overwhelming, but on the other side, people who are harassed give. I wish it wasn't true. The small organization I was working with did not want to harass people, and that's probably a good part of why they did not reach anywhere near their goal.

You can say no. You can give them a bracha to do well. You don't HAVE to give money.

But they are honestly just doing what works...

amother

Obsidian

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 4:12 pm

amother Garnet wrote:

You have every right to fundraise. I'm just commenting on the excessive nudging some people do. Really, I saw your link! It's my right to choose not to give and I don't need to defend myself.

amother

Brass

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 4:17 pm

My relative is in the business of these fundraisers-matching campaigns. I sometimes wonder how it feels to be in a line that people hate.
(I wonder the same about robocall companies.)

amother

Steelblue

Thu, Jan 18 2024, 4:19 pm

It's 1,000% out of hand. Every other second. That's another link to another organization or school. It turned us all into shnorrors. I hate it.