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amother

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 12:53 pm

I'm such an aggressive driver. I admit it. I beep when seeing ppl backing out of driveways or out of parking spots to be able to pass through first. I beep continuously at green lights. I beep when someone is making a u-turn to let me go first. This morning there was a truck in front of me that refused to move so I called the company to call the driver.

I drive the speed limit and very carefully. I just can't stand the slow ppl on the road like the ones driving extra slow and then finally pull over to the side. Or ppl that try and get away with making u-turns. Don't block the whole street for doing something illegal! I never make u-turns. I don't cut ppl off on the road. I just don't let them come in front of me like someone backing out of a driveway or parking spot.
Anyone else? Hiding

Comptroller

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 12:54 pm

Drive safe. If you can't - don't drive.

And if you can't wait - have music in your head - sing - play an instrument - listen to a record so that music will be in your head.

Last edited by Comptroller on Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:11 pm; edited 2 times in total

amother

DarkMagenta

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:02 pm

What's the point of your post?
You want us to explain how crazy you are? That you are risking ppl's lives? Banging head

You want us to tell you "how amazing you are"? Scratching Head

amother

Snow

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:03 pm

You’re definitely not the only one, I see people behaving like jerks on the road all the time. Just last week I watched an accident happen when someone tried turning when he didn’t have the right of way.

amother

DarkKhaki

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:03 pm

I encourage you to work on yourself. The world will be a kinder place and you will be a happier person.

amother

Brown

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:04 pm

I hope you don’t mind me asking, are you consciously aware that there are actual people in those cars? If you were both walking, would you yell at someone? Why are you in such a rush that you can’t have a little derech eretz? I really don’t understand the aggressiveness, especially where I live where everyone knows almost all the drivers are frum…why does bein adam l’chaveiro just go out the window when you’re driving?

And I know this seems like I’m attacking you but I’m really not trying to. I just don’t get it. Like do you not associate cars with people?

watergirl

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:09 pm

OP, please look into this. This is not doing good things for you or for the other people on the road. I can't imagine walking around with that degree of aggression and stress. Aggression while driving is very dangerous also because you never know who you are beeping at and the wrong person will pull out a handgun and let you know how mad they are (this has happened, it happened to my cousin).

Drivers tend to think we can't see who they are. The dude who is picking his nose, the lady who is plucking her eyebrows - we see them. We also see the person with bad driving habits. What if the person you honked at was actually your kid's principal driving someone else's car? And you only realized once you drove around them, looked in their window to give the mean glare, and then you saw? OMG please don't do this.

Also, why do you feel you need to go first? Why are you in a rush at a red light that you are beeping? What do you want the person in front of you to do, run through the light? If you start to honk the second it turns green, also, why? The extra few seconds bother you that much? I'm trying to understand honestly why you would say you beep continuously at a red light.

Nothing is worth this, and you will be much calmer and happier when you can sooth yourself and not react this way.

Lastly, think PLEASE about the message you are teaching your kids. And if that does not help you, remember that we need to be making a kiddush Hashem always.

amother

Snapdragon

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:12 pm

Wait till you honk behind my husband. He'll sit out the rest of the light until the next green if you honk at him.
Its wrong too and id be mortified to be with him in the car but I get his point.

amother

Navyblue

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:13 pm

and im the one that if I am unfortunate enough to get stuck in front of a driver like you I will purposefully drive Juuuust at the speed limit and not a dot more (assuming this is local driving) and drive you crazy..

because RUDE!

amother

Brickred

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:14 pm

Nope, there are plenty of people like you!
I know because they're the ones who cause me to hate driving and therefore often be stuck at home with my kids all the time. I know because if I meet too many of them, my anxiety goes way up for the rest of the day and affects how I interact with my family.
So don't worry, lots of drivers like you in the world!

imaima

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:20 pm

amother OP wrote:

I'm such an aggressive driver. I admit it. I beep when seeing ppl backing out of driveways or out of parking spots to be able to pass through first. I beep continuously at red lights. I beep when someone is making a u-turn to let me go first. This morning there was a truck in front of me that refused to move so I called the company to call the driver.
Anyone else? Hiding

That’s what happens when you don’t learn to take turns as a child

watergirl

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:23 pm

amother Brickred wrote:

This is another reason OP, to retrain yourself. Your behavior has real-life affects on other people.

amother

Gardenia

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:25 pm

amother OP wrote:

You don't deserve the privilege of driving.
Calling the truck company? That's beyond obnoxious.

kneidelmeidel

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:27 pm

I have seen very kind, non aggressive people, become very aggressive as soon as they’re behind the wheel. I agree with all the posters saying it’s not good, and can be dangerous, but I don’t think you’re an aggressive person just because of this.

CPenzias

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 1:56 pm

I commute. I hate drivers like you. I say to myself, they're in such a rush but if there's an accident you'll have to wait for a loooong time.
Also, honk behind me and I'll slooow down on purpose and not let you pass. It's a chillel Hashem to drive like an a$$hole so good for you. Now that you acknowledge it, work on yourself.

amother

Blush

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 2:01 pm

When I see you I think “what is wrong with her?!”

NechaMom

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 2:02 pm

Fun fact:
So many middos are obvious by the way someone drives. If two mute people go on a date you can get to know the driver just by the way he or she drives. Op, I'm guessing you didn't drive on the dates. If you're on this website you're probably married...

amother

Snapdragon

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 2:04 pm

Idk why the op gives off a boasting vibe more than an apologetic one. Maybe they hit the imamother tab instead of the imabucher tab. 🤷🏻‍♀️

mommyla

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 2:04 pm

amother OP wrote:

Why do you beep at red lights?

You’re definitely not the only one, but you may be the only one who seems to be proud of it What

sequoia

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 2:05 pm

Why do you beep *continuously* at red lights? What do you want the person to do?

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