Is it too much $$?

amother

Seashell

Mon, Aug 28 2023, 9:44 pm

amother OP wrote:

Can I afford it? Yes.
But should I rather put away the money for marrying off kids? And if my husband will succeed and we’ll have enough money then to marry off kids and this fixture won’t be a problem… I’ll regret not buying it

You can always buy it then. Or find something even nicer.

lamplighter

Mon, Aug 28 2023, 10:05 pm

If you are being offered a gift of 4500 and want to spend it on your chandelier - abi gezunt. If you are justifying it as it's worth jewelery or vacations that you're not doing or that you dont usually spend- that's another story.
I do understand appreciating furniture more than fancy jewelry but if you aren't flush with cash and this is a big spend for you, I would first consider how long this peice will last you? How many years of nachas will you get from it?

Amarante

Mon, Aug 28 2023, 10:35 pm

amother Pumpkin wrote:

Who sells these light fixtures????

Many places - here is just one that sells some for even more

https://www.lumens.com/luxury-lighting/

The issue isn't whether the specific fixture is "worth" the price.

The issue is whether purchasing the fixture makes economic sense for OP

There is a cliche that states - If you have to ask the price, you can't afford it. I think it is somewhat applicable here - in my experience, if people can truly afford a luxury, then don't question whether they can afford it. They might question whether they iike it more than something else - but they are not worried that they won't be able to fund their kids' weddings if they buy something.

amother

Chambray

Mon, Aug 28 2023, 10:47 pm

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NechaMom

Tue, Aug 29 2023, 1:58 am

amother OP wrote:

Is $4,500 too much for an insane dining room light fixture? Dying to get it as a baby gift or smtn

What makes it insane? Reminds me of the attractive thread with the insane looks. Can we see a picture?
IMO if you’re buying it instead of jewelry, you can consider it jewelry for your dining room. It all depends on your budget and lifestyle so it’s really impossible for us to judge for you.

amother

Nemesia

Tue, Aug 29 2023, 6:58 am

amother OP wrote:

Sounds like you're spend as your husband is already "succeeding". Is it only a limited availability item? Why can't you wait to buy it when you can actually afford it, because it sounds like you can't yet. Get your present later.

Personally, I think 4,000 is an insanely extravagant present for jewelry or furniture even more so if you cannot afford it. If someone can spend 4,000 and not have to think about what else you should have spent the money on, then go ahead and spend however you want. But don't spend crazy amounts when you're not in that situation but only hope to be someday.

amother

Lemon

Tue, Aug 29 2023, 7:53 am

amother Chambray wrote:

Never ever buy a light fixture off of Ali express!!!
My brother is an electrician and he’s told me how many electrical fires and shorts he’s dealt with from them.

Btw, OP, even though my own chandelier was about half that amount, I think it’s ok to spend it if you can afford it and you really want to.
HOWEVER, I wouldn’t spend it on a dupe! I’d spend it on a brand name like a schonbeck or something. I don’t think it’s worth it otherwise

watergirl

Tue, Aug 29 2023, 8:16 am

So this is how the people who are not into watches and jewelry feel when they read the "I want a cartier tank" threads. I personally don't even notice lighting in a room and I remember I was a guest once at a home where the wife had just gotten a new chandelier as an anniversary gift, she said it was her preference instead of a new ring. It's not my thing and like I said, I literally do not notice lighting, and all I know is I hate sitting in a room with a chandelier as in my experience, they throw so much heat, it's really uncomfortable for me.

But I am that person who dreams of a Cartier Tank. And if the day ever arrives where I have 3k thats just sitting around and all bills are paid, maaser is given, sheitels, vacations, and simcha funds exist... then I'm running to get one.

So OP, if you have met all of your financial obligations and have money set aside for a rainy day, go get your chandelier and enjoy every second of it!

amother

Lemon

Tue, Aug 29 2023, 8:19 am

watergirl wrote:

I like your post very much. Everyone has different priorities and likes! If we all were the same, what’s the point of having all of us here!
Btw, most chandeliers these days don’t give off a lot of heat. My chandelier (which is beautiful, was over 2k, and a gift from my parents, I didn’t buy it myself) is all LED lights, over 36 of them. It gives off no heat.
Actually every fixture and spotlight in my house is LED except for my old fixture that hangs over my island, now that I think about it

Amarante

Tue, Aug 29 2023, 9:43 am

amother Lemon wrote:

I was also horrified by suggesting that one purchase light fixtures from Ali. Any lights sold in the USA have to meet very stringent safety standards. When a US company has items manufactured in China they are manufactured with very stringent contractual specifications and the product is inspected to make sure it is done correctly.

The items bought from Ali have no guarantee of being made safely.

This is also true of faucets bought from Ali because many of them contain lead which is dangerous.

I also would not buy from amazon unless it was from the specific manufacturer because there are a lot of counterfeit products being sold on amazon which aren't safe. This could include children's toys which could have dangerous paint or parts which represent a choking hazard.

watergirl

Tue, Aug 29 2023, 10:00 am

amother Lemon wrote:

Hmmm. Maybe it's just the chandelier's I've sat under that throw heat then! My MIL has one and it's very old so certainly not LED, and it's unbearable to sit in that room when it's on. I've had that experience many times. BH it's not the case with the newer ones.

In any case, OP, if you can afford it and met the rest of your financial obligations, enjoy it!