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amother
Ginger
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 Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:03 pm
... we received a second hand American doll for my kids. Being that my daughter already has one, my six year old son instantly started playing with that one...dressing her and naming her... my kids went into Lala land together with their dolls. On one hand I thought it was cute to see that side of him and to see the siblings playing so beautifully together, but I'm also not sure if I should let him know that dolls are for girls. My husband already said he will tell him that dolls are for girls.
Something just doesn't sound fair about not letting a child play with a toy just because it's "girlish"
I'd love to hear other opinions on what you would do
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causemommysaid
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:06 pm
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Not a big deal. Just let him play. He won't be playing with dolls when he's older so why make a fuss about it? If anything, making him feel bad about it will cause more damage than him playing with a girl toy.
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amother
Mint
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:09 pm
Let. The. Child. Be.
Please.
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MagentaYenta
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:11 pm
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There are no girl or boy toys nor are there girl or boy colors. There are just children's toys and something we call colors.
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watergirl
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:12 pm
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Remind me please. Why are dolls for girls?
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:14 pm
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amother
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:15 pm
Ukrainians do not let boys play with dolls and girls play with guns.
I personally think there is nothing wrong if they plays with it. But I don't think I would go out and buy a doll for a boy.
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amother
Dodgerblue
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:16 pm
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When it comes to child play it's good to have dolls so they can Express their feelings like as in play therapy.
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MagentaYenta
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:18 pm
| amother wrote: | Ukrainians do not let boys play with dolls and girls play with guns.
I personally think there is nothing wrong if they plays with it. But I don't think I would go out and buy a doll for a boy. |
My Mother was Ukrainian, I had a gun, my brothers were allowed to play with dolls, none liked guns and when we all got older we liked working on cars together.
Broad brushes aren't always the most accurate.
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bigsis144
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:23 pm
| watergirl wrote: | | Remind me please. Why are dolls for girls? |
Because only girls are allowed to be nurturing.
If you give little boys dolls they'll grow up to be gay.
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MagentaYenta
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:24 pm
| bigsis144 wrote: | Because only girls are allowed to be nurturing.
If you give little boys dolls they'll grow up to be gay.
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Bingo.
Don't forget to dress them all in boy colors too 
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amother
Ginger
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:25 pm
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Oh, and my husband thinks it's not tznius that my son is undressing and dressing the doll.
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amother
Pink
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:36 pm
| amother wrote: | Ukrainians do not let boys play with dolls and girls play with guns.
I personally think there is nothing wrong if they plays with it. But I don't think I would go out and buy a doll for a boy. |
Shoot me now, I did it. I went and bought my son a doll. He loves it. That and all his kitchen toys.
That being said, I wouldn't go out and buy any child any child a $100 doll. Regardless of gender.
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watergirl
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 10:50 pm
| bigsis144 wrote: | Because only girls are allowed to be nurturing.
If you give little boys dolls they'll grow up to be gay.
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Ahhhh riiiiiiight. Thanks.
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amother
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 11:11 pm
| amother wrote: | ... we received a second hand American doll for my kids. Being that my daughter already has one, my six year old son instantly started playing with that one...dressing her and naming her... my kids went into Lala land together with their dolls. On one hand I thought it was cute to see that side of him and to see the siblings playing so beautifully together, but I'm also not sure if I should let him know that dolls are for girls. My husband already said he will tell him that dolls are for girls.
Something just doesn't sound fair about not letting a child play with a toy just because it's "girlish"
I'd love to hear other opinions on what you would do |
No.
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Coffee Addict
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 11:15 pm
My boy plays with the doll. No big deal at all. Let him enjoy life 
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amother
Pumpkin
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 11:18 pm
I don't know...
My husband is plenty masculine and has babies and he owns a stroller... Just saying
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abaker
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Mon, Jul 31 2017, 11:32 pm
I purposely bought a doll for my son. Nothing wrong with it at all. Leave him alone.
And as far as tznius goes, that's nonsense. I don't think the dolls have an anatomically correct parts anyway.
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amother
Brunette
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Tue, Aug 01 2017, 12:32 am
Seems to me this is a shalom bayis issue rather than a parenting issue, because op wants to let him be, but her dh disagrees and wants to tell him they are just for girls.
Other, wiser people than me could answer this different question.
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Miri7
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Tue, Aug 01 2017, 12:35 am
Dolls are not just for girls.
Let the kids play.
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