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amother

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 7:52 pm

If a couple getting married is older and making the wedding themselves, is it a dis to not put the parents' names on the invitation?

There's no estrangement or anything, good relationships all around, just the individuals are fully independent.

Trying to figure out the wording of this invitation since the community standard is
Mr/Mrs Her Parents
Mr/Mrs His Parents
invite you to the wedding of their children
Her
and
Him
at Date, Time, Place

Thought of a bunch of different ideas but so far each one has something awkward about it, hard to explain but looking for ideas or examples.

ra_mom

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 7:58 pm

https://www.zazzle.com/elegant.....D_BwE

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/.....1408/

https://www.annsbridalbargains.....D_BwE

https://www.cohenprinting.com/.....tion/

geemum

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 8:12 pm

You are invited to the wedding of
Jack and Jill
Date venue details..
Honoured parents (and grandparents)
Mr & Mrs His side
Mr & Mrs Her Side
Mrs Granny
Mr & Mrs Grandparents

amother

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 8:35 pm

My main question is within the Jewish world would it be considered a dis to not do the whole "honored parents" part and just leave it as "He and She invite you to wedding at Date, Time, Place"

Ellie7

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 8:40 pm

I think it is a bit of a dis. We paid for our wedding ourselves and still did the standard wording. It just wasn’t worth making a statement or insulting anyone.

amother

Lily

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 8:50 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

The parents’ names should be on it. It can be the couples’ names on top, so and so invite you…and the names of the “honored parents (and grandparents if applicable) can be on the bottom

amother

Lily

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 8:51 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

My main question is within the Jewish world would it be considered a dis to not do the whole "honored parents" part and just leave it as "He and She invite you to wedding at Date, Time, Place"

Yes, huge diss

amother

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 8:53 pm

OK thanks. I wanted to go with a very simple visual look but I don't want to misstep. Keeping the parents in and will have to figure out how to make it all fit.

mommyhood

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 9:00 pm

If you’re having an out of the box wedding than a different invitation won’t make such a statement. If you’re having a traditional wedding then it will definitely make a statement.

amother

Tangerine

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 9:51 pm

Are the parents walking the bride and groom down the aisle? Then their names should definitely be on top of the invitation.

amother

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 9:59 pm

One set yes, one no (not married so they need a married couple to walk down with)

The wedding is not exactly typical but not really out of the box either.

essie14

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 10:32 pm

Ellie7 wrote:

I think it is a bit of a dis. We paid for our wedding ourselves and still did the standard wording. It just wasn’t worth making a statement or insulting anyone.

Same. Our parents walked us down. Most people didn't know that we paid for the entire wedding ourselves. It just wasn't worth the statement or the dis, so we included their names.

amother

Mon, Dec 13 2021, 10:39 pm

It's not a matter of who's paying, we're talking about adults who haven't lived with their parents for +/-20 years.

But bottom line if people are going to see it as a dis, then their names are going on the invitation. Just clarifying that this isn't some quibble.

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