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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 6:55 am
The doctors came out to my husband and told him to take his leave, they couldn’t do anything anymore and I was hemorrhaging out. I was semi conscious/ heard him crying and screaming not to give up, he refused to listen to them and sign a do not resuscitate. Shortly later I went unconscious and woke up in the icu. All the doctors and nurses kept marveling over me , apparently I had the lowest hemoglobin they ever saw in a living patient . Multiple blood transfusions later and a long journey and I am B”h back to normal.
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 6:57 am
Omg! Refuah shleima!
That’s crazy! B”h is all I can say. Wow
Sending hugs
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Busybee5
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 6:59 am
Wow!! Sounds so scary 😨 😢
How long did it take you to recover?
What number baby was this?
I hemorrhaged after one birth as well, but nothing like your story.
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:01 am
Was it painful?
Were you aware? in panic?
BH you're ok!
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:05 am
I’ve had hemorrhaging once I gave birth but it was under control pretty quickly once I was given shots and stuff . I remember that moment and I was terrified but what you describe is so much scarier and much worse . This sounds like such a traumatic experience for both you and DH.
How long did it take you to recover ?
Are you at risk now for having more kids?
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amother
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:13 am
Busybee5 wrote: | Wow!! Sounds so scary 😨 😢
How long did it take you to recover?
What number baby was this?
I hemorrhaged after one birth as well, but nothing like your story. |
This was my second child. I was taking blood thinners through out the pregnancy and would have stopped before labor except labor came on prematurely and very unexpectedly . I remember some parts of it, I remember them calling a code blue to OR 2 where I was and calling the whole team including the nicu teams. I heard them telling my husband they could put me on life support if he wanted to call my family to take leave. I tried to yell no that I am still alive but no one heard me. I heard the doctors as they were preparing to intubate me . The pain was excruciating and I felt like I was crying and going to die of pain . They didn’t have time for a epidural and thought I was unconscious until I started moving At which point they put something in the iv. They had multiple different iv lines in and started giving me blood transfusion.
. I was in the hospital for 3 weeks and then went in and out a couple times over the next couple months with other complications . It took me about 2-3 months till I was able to safely walk around and be left alone which was right around the time my child got out of the nicu. I had to do regular blood tests each week until my counts were back to normal.
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amother
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:15 am
Highstrung wrote: | I’ve had hemorrhaging once I gave birth but it was under control pretty quickly once I was given shots and stuff . I remember that moment and I was terrified but what you describe is so much scarier and much worse . This sounds like such a traumatic experience for both you and DH.
How long did it take you to recover ?
Are you at risk now for having more kids? |
Physically a few months, emotionally a few years.
They told me to wait at least 3 years and then to have a consultation with hematologist and mfm if I want to consider having another child. My child is 5 and I am still petrified to go through this again. Also , now I can only have csections since they did a t cut (which makes things complicated since both pregnancies I went into labor naturally around 30 weeks and would require hospitalization starting at 28 weeks.
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amother
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:19 am
Excruciating, they started the csection where they thought I was unconscious without an epidural and minimal pain relief, although they said it was only a few minutes it felt like hours. I was somewhat aware. I remember trying to talk and crying but no one hearing me . I tried to move away because I felt something cutting me but then they put something in for pain relief and I remember it getting better. I remember my husband’s screaming. I remember him arguing with the medical team not to give up, and then I went under and woke up a couple days later, my mother , mil, and husband were all there , I didn’t even remember what happened right away. But then my first question was is the baby ok. Everyone was just gaping at me , in shock that I was ok.
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Dev80
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:20 am
Wow that is terrifying. How long were you unconscious for?
Glad to hear you are OK now. These are the stories we don't really hear!
Did friends/the community know what had happened to you? Are you open about it in real life?
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amother
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:25 am
Dev80 wrote: | Wow that is terrifying. How long were you unconscious for?
Glad to hear you are OK now. These are the stories we don't really hear!
Did friends/the community know what had happened to you? Are you open about it in real life? |
Almost 2 days, people were davening, everyone knew that my situation was bad but I don’t think they shared too many details, my older daughter was passed around from house to house till my mother came in and stayed a bit. My husband was not up to carring for an active toddler between running to me and the nicu. My husband slept near the hospital till I was out of danger. I am pretty open about it although it took a good few months to be able to share without getting emotional.My husband shared the story at my sons bris with several hundred people there (it was after 2.5 months) and I made birchas hagomel in front of a minyan (from behind the mechitza) .
I made my rav give me an indefinite heter for birth control before I went to the mikva, I was physically shaking and petrified of intimacy and getting pregnant again.
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:26 am
Wow wow so scary I got chills I can’t imagine being aware of everything and being unable to get ppl to hear you.
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:27 am
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:32 am
Did you get therapy to deal with the trauma?
I've had hemorrhaging too at one birth. But after the birth and definitely not as traumatic.
I still have nightmares sometimes. Especially now that I'm pregnant again. I wake up sweating and shaking.
I'm thinking if I need to treat it like ptsd.
I'm glad you're ok and you are able to be a mother to your kids bh.
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amother
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:40 am
amother Seagreen wrote: | Did you get therapy to deal with the trauma?
I've had hemorrhaging too at one birth. But after the birth and definitely not as traumatic.
I still have nightmares sometimes. Especially now that I'm pregnant again. I wake up sweating and shaking.
I'm thinking if I need to treat it like ptsd.
I'm glad you're ok and you are able to be a mother to your kids bh. |
Yes I had a lot of therapy . Both to help me process and to not be petrified of going back into the hospital . I still get shaky when I walk into there.
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:44 am
Oh my god this is the actual worst birth story I’ve ever heard by far. I hate that this happened to you! I’m so so sorry.
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:45 am
amother OP wrote: | Almost 2 days, people were davening, everyone knew that my situation was bad but I don’t think they shared too many details, my older daughter was passed around from house to house till my mother came in and stayed a bit. My husband was not up to carring for an active toddler between running to me and the nicu. My husband slept near the hospital till I was out of danger. I am pretty open about it although it took a good few months to be able to share without getting emotional.My husband shared the story at my sons bris with several hundred people there (it was after 2.5 months) and I made birchas hagomel in front of a minyan (from behind the mechitza) .
I made my rav give me an indefinite heter for birth control before I went to the mikva, I was physically shaking and petrified of intimacy and getting pregnant again. |
I'm tearing up over here. Sounds terrifying, and an amazing miracle at the same time.
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:47 am
amother Snow wrote: | Oh my god this is the actual worst birth story I’ve ever heard by far. I hate that this happened to you! I’m so so sorry. |
Yeah, it's making me wonder if I should really risk another if I should ever change my mind before I get too old. Soooo scary, and we take it for granted when things go right because we just assume they will, like the last time/s.
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:49 am
amother Dustypink wrote: | Wow wow so scary I got chills I can’t imagine being aware of everything and being unable to get ppl to hear you. |
Right this sounds really bad! Like locked in syndrome but way worse. Can't imagine
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Thu, Sep 28 2023, 12:02 pm
Have you taken any therapeutic measures to remove the traumatic effects of the past ? What do you find most helpfull ?
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