When someone mentions your weight loss

B'Syata D'Shmya

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 9:07 am

amother Oatmeal wrote:

Please don't lie to someone struggling with their weight.
I have dieted for years and was really struggling, I had a close friend who also struggled for years, we were on the same diet at one point losing bits here and there. All of a sudden she started losing a lot and pretty fast, when I asked her what motivates her and wow she must be doing so well, she said ya I just stay focused on the diet and don't cheat.
Some time later it slipped that she had the surgery. Meanwhile I was hating on myself for months and months, why can't I have willpower like her, why am I only losing slowly and stalling. I was asking her for tips and she gave me tips for that diet.
Our friendship has never fully recovered.
If you are blessed to take shortcuts, own up to it.

Please dont compare yourself to others, life is not a competition. I feel badly that you hated yourself over such a superficial thing. Eshes Chayil never once mentions her dress size and I have yet to see a persons weight listed on their matzayva.
You are loved and worthy just the way you are , may you be blessed as well.