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amother
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Thu, Feb 08 2024, 5:32 pm
I am wondering how other working moms with husbands that do not have flexible jobs feel about this. My husband and I both work full time but my husband’s job is less flexible- ie he is responsible for bigger decisions than I am and also supervises other people. My job is not flexible but they’ll allow me to take off if I need to- just I won’t get paid for that time. I am a huge people pleaser and I also always prided myself on my good work ethic, however, now that I’m a mom I feel like the most flaky employee. My toddler gets fever at least every 2-3 weeks during the winter months and I often need to stay home with him. I am also going through a high risk pregnancy and have needed to take off to see specialists. I offer to make up work but I still feel like it just doesn’t look good. Other working moms with inflexible husbands, how do you manage?
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amother
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Thu, Feb 08 2024, 5:39 pm
I’m struck by why your toddler is getting a fever that often. My babies/preschoolers go to daycare (so they always have a lot of sick contacts) but BH get sick way less. Maybe every 6-12 months. I’d speak to your doc about ways to boost immunity.
Full time working mom here too.it’s hard but it shouldn’t have to have to be that hard
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mamadana
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Thu, Feb 08 2024, 6:26 pm
So sorry, I have the same. Yes, my kids randomly get a fever every few weeks. This is normal. Count my kids Chanuka vacation (on different days), midwinter vacation (on different days), my sick days, kids' sick days, in-between school and camp, in between camp and school, every fast day, every erev, every isru and when there are microscopic flurries outside, and I should probably be fired
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amother
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Thu, Feb 08 2024, 8:16 pm
amother Bisque wrote: | I’m struck by why your toddler is getting a fever that often. My babies/preschoolers go to daycare (so they always have a lot of sick contacts) but BH get sick way less. Maybe every 6-12 months. I’d speak to your doc about ways to boost immunity.
Full time working mom here too.it’s hard but it shouldn’t have to have to be that hard |
My coworkers seem to have similar patterns with their kids. They have more flexible spouses which makes staying home easier.
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amother
Camellia
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Thu, Feb 08 2024, 8:25 pm
amother OP wrote: | My coworkers seem to have similar patterns with their kids. They have more flexible spouses which makes staying home easier. |
You're probably my workmate then. Lets just say the grass is always greener on the other side.
At least you have 2 solid incomes. My husband is very flexible, but no income.
Yes I do feel bad for you with all colds n flus. I don't know how you cope.
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amother
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Thu, Feb 08 2024, 8:28 pm
This is the stage you’re in. It’s hard not being able to perform up to your usual standards. But that’s how it is when you have small kids.
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Teal
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Thu, Feb 08 2024, 8:36 pm
As my family grew, I cut my hours. Also, I had an honest discussion with my employer about what I was capable of and we worked it out bh.
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amother
Hotpink
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Thu, Feb 08 2024, 9:05 pm
Communicate. Offer to work from home, make up time at night, etc.
I am a manager and am myself in the same stage of life. I have a house of little kids and no backup. And because I understand so well, I am very close to firing an excellent employee who has been missing work nonstop without explanation. Of course I understand all the sick days, off days etc. but because she’s leaving early without a word on top of the rest she’s leaving me with no choice, I can’t keep filling in for her. Of course you have no obligation to explain, but if you don’t it makes it a lot harder to excuse.
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