Paying Bills (POLL)

amother

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:33 pm

Who in your household pays the Bills, takes care of finances?

My dh is pressuring me to take over since he comes home exhausted from work and its "too hard". I'm bh blessed with a family and busy household and cant see myself taking this on... but trying not to feel guilty about it. I'm curious what it's like in other households.

amother

Denim

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:39 pm

My husband controls all the money
I hate it I must ask him for money
He pays the bills

amother

Burlywood

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:41 pm

I wrote other. My husband is in "charge" of paying bills but I take care of certain ones. I can easily take over if he needs me to and we both have equal access to all accounts and money. Sometimes I will realize something is due and just pay it, but at this point I let him have primary responsibility. I used to pay them all.

amother

Lime

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:41 pm

amother [ Denim ] wrote:

My husband controls all the money
I hate it I must ask him for money
He pays the bills

Same. Getting a job now for myself and keeping the money for myself since I need to be able to spend money on things without having to ask.

amother

Slategray

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:41 pm

I pay some, dh pays others. We have automatic bill pay for most things.

amother

Apricot

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:42 pm

I pay my bills. I have 4 charge cards in my name.
I give my own tzedukah. I get cash from him when I need.

DH pays the household bills, his personal bills, and gives his tzedukah.

amother

Emerald

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:44 pm

amother [ Slategray ] wrote:

I pay some, dh pays others. We have automatic bill pay for most things.

Same. I pay my credit card bills, he pays his, and there are a couple of random things that we each take care of. Everything else is automated, and dh monitors those.

amother

Babypink

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:44 pm

I used to do it until there was not enough money and we had to juggle which bill gets paid first!
It was stressing me out way too much and I told my husband, it became his job!!
I think I would be much better at it than him,he really doesn't have so much time and he's not very detail oriented but I still think I would be way too stressed so I'm not offering!
(I only get upset when water gets shut off because the bill wasn't paid!! Banging head

)

amother

Emerald

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:45 pm

amother [ Apricot ] wrote:

I pay my bills. I have 4 charge cards in my name.
I give my own tzedukah. I get cash from him when I need.

DH pays the household bills, his personal bills, and gives his tzedukah.

Why don't you withdraw cash on your own?

amother

Vermilion

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:47 pm

I voted me, but we try to sit down regularly so we're on the same page financially. Im better at the little numbers and keeping track of the accounts and due dates. Dh is better at the big picture.

Most bills these days can be set up for automatic payments. Why don't you sit down together and do this?

westchestermom

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 8:54 pm

I am the main earner and naturally more concerned about things like credit scores and interest rates so I pay them. I'm the type of person who pays bills the same day the online bill is available, and I prefer to have bills paid before spending for fun. These days everything can be paid online, including the mortgage, and paying a bill takes 3 minutes so no big deal.

tigerwife

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 9:31 pm

DH pays all the bills, even when I was the primary breadwinner. Ironically, all the bank apps are on my phone, not his. I count my blessings that he is as responsible about it as I am not.

amother

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 9:38 pm

amother [ Denim ] wrote:

My husband controls all the money
I hate it I must ask him for money
He pays the bills

Same here! Hate it too. But cant see where to fit in the finances

amother

Beige

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 9:41 pm

Im supporting dh thru school. I earn the money he pays the bills thou almost all are on autopay

amother

Mauve

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 9:59 pm

When I was supporting DH through school I felt that it should be his responsibility, but he was the first one to say that the nitty gritties are not his strength. I would get upset every time a bill was late, until eventually I realized that I could spend my life getting upset or just take over. At this point I still work but I’ve taken over the bills and we’re both much happier this way.

teachkids

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 10:42 pm

I wrote me, but really I’ve put 95% of our bills on auto pay

perquacky

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 11:25 pm

Me. It's all me.
When I first met dh and discovered he didn't balance his checkbook (this is in the days before electronic banking) and that he didn't even keep track of the checks he wrote, I took over the finances. Including controlling our retirement and investment accounts.
I don't like doing it, but I know I'll get it done.
My mother manages her and my dad's money, so I guess I get it from her.
I joke with dh that if I chas v'shalom pass away today, he'll have no idea how to access our bank accounts!

amother

Saddlebrown

Wed, Nov 20 2019, 11:40 pm

I take care of all finances and pay all the bills.
I apprise DH if anything is out of the ordinary, like an unusually high electricity bill, and we discuss it together. But otherwise he leaves it all to me.

TwinsMommy

Thu, Nov 21 2019, 12:22 am

18 bills per month, 4 of them are auto withdrawl so I need to remember to do 14 of them. I pretty much just line up with when the bulk of our income comes in and do 7 around mid month and another 7 around the end of the month. I could set up others on autowithdrawl but I like the flexibility of paying diff amounts each month to credit cards and paying diff days each month for larger bills.