I have no patience for them..

Girl@Heart

Sat, Jul 02 2022, 8:49 pm

You can have both but your a person with limited energy. I vote for more help in your house. It helps alleviate some stresses so you can devote more energy to your kids.

Ma3

Sat, Jul 02 2022, 8:52 pm

If you're feeling burnt out, it's time to recharge. Take care of yourself first so you have the energy to take care of your kids. Get more cleaning help, cut corners in other areas so you can spend time with them when you aren't busy with your career. And set boundaries as to when you're giving time to kids and when you're busy with career. You can do both, you just have to be recharged, energized and have clear guidelines for yourself.

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Sat, Jul 02 2022, 8:59 pm

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freilich

Sun, Jul 03 2022, 5:25 am

happytobemom wrote:

Use everyday interactions to connect with your children.

When serving them supper, giving them what they need, or anything you're doing anyway, do it with eye contact, with feeling, with connection.

You can be at the park together and be disconnected, and you can be bathing and getting them into pajamas and that can be a way to connect.

Not that the activities and outings are not valuable. They are, they create connection and amazing childhood memories, but you can connect in the everyday every moment also. And those can be even more valuable - because you can be making connections with every moment of mother-child interaction.

This is very solid advice. Use the day to day routine to connect. Beaches and baking don't necessarily need to happen often. Schmoozing with kids while puttering around the house, or even better, doing some daily tasks together etc etc.

We tend to think that giving our kids attention means doing extra things. While that may be exciting it's not necessary on a constant basis in order to connect.

amother

Molasses

Sun, Feb 25 2024, 8:56 pm

happytobemom wrote:

Things you have to do anyways —make them bonding.

U will both enjoy more