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amother

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 3:19 am

What is the most repeated compliment you receive from others ?
Do you agree with them?

amother

NeonPurple

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 4:54 am

Probably in school as a "smart" kid and "goody goody" always got seen for my behavior and participation. I didn't feel seen as a person only that they saw me for following the rules and being "good" not for actually taking the time and care to get to know me and my personality traits because everyone's busy with the "hard" kids. And every year the cycle repeats itself...
In addition the kids obviously are you get and less mature (some may be jealous as well) so they also only see me for that- and those must've been the most frustrating long lasting compliments... Very invalidating

And by being complimented I don't mean noticed, I mean this is what was complimented on report cards etc

amother

NeonPurple

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 4:54 am

Sorry if this isn't what you meant

amother

Brunette

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 4:55 am

Definitely on my height and size. It’s true but it’s just my nature.

amother

Buttercup

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 4:57 am

20s- pretty hair, nice clothes/taste
30s- great mother, well brought up kids
40s- much fewer compliments, maybe good cook. But I just started my 40s

amother

Daisy

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 5:00 am

That I’m a good teacher, kids love my class, kids are learning so much etc.
Honestly, until I entered the classroom at the age of 21 to teach, I was a wallflower. No one noticed me, was very shy and quiet and not particularly good at anything. My success in the classroom (and the compliments) have given me the confidence to also succeed in other relationships and arenas.

amother

Springgreen

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 5:44 am

I was always complimented for being smart. Didn't feel like much of a compliment because I didn't work to be smart, it's how Hashem created me. Had a miniature existential crisis when I became a mother, because being smart doesn't make you a good parent, and being smart really doesn't matter anymore at that stage. So my main characteristic, as it were, became irrelevant, and I was left with - who am I now that I'm a mom?

Anyhow, it's been a decade of motherhood and nowadays my primary compliments come from dh, who tells me I'm hot and a wonderful mother. My friends stay in touch so there's the implicit compliment of being a good friend. I enjoy hosting, and guests seem to enjoy coming back, so I take it I'm a decent cook and conversationalist. All much more important than being smart.

amother

Birch

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 5:50 am

That I'm brave 😁

Sometimes there is a little bit of judgement in it like "I wouldn't do that if I were you..." 😁 but that's okay. I'm proud of my bravery, even though insider's secret: partly it is due to naiveity, and part due to desperation.

amother

Dimgray

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 5:53 am

That I’m Funny

Yes I am very funny

amother

NeonPurple

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 5:55 am

amother Springgreen wrote:

I was always complimented for being smart. Didn't feel like much of a compliment because I didn't work to be smart, it's how Hashem created me.

THIS SO MUCH!! You worded it beautifully!
This is why I felt invisible as posted above, like you're not seeing ME just something about me that I didn't work for.

amother

Daffodil

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 5:56 am

“You’re so balanced”

amother

Bellflower

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 5:59 am

That I'm easygoing. And I hate it. Because I was just expected to be easygoing. At a certain point I made an official announcement (between my family) that I'm not easygoing anymore Smile

amother

Dimgray

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 6:03 am

amother Daffodil wrote:

“You’re so balanced”

What do they mean when they say this?

amother

Lawngreen

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 6:10 am

That my food is good and my house is clean. from my kids.
That I smell good from my autistic son Smile

. All the time on that one! Its just Tide detergent! He smells just as good Smile

amother

Sienna

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 6:14 am

That I'm for the books or that I'm a character.
Gotta say, I love being told that people enjoy my personality.

amother

DarkPurple

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 6:17 am

amother Bellflower wrote:

That I'm easygoing. And I hate it. Because I was just expected to be easygoing. At a certain point I made an official announcement (between my family) that I'm not easygoing anymore Smile

I get the same from coworkers. That I’m so flexible and easygoing, which is nice to heard but then I get the short end of the stick sometimes because they think oh well she’s so easy going she won’t care. Um Yes I do

amother

Amaranthus

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 6:19 am

That I'm a ray of sunshine 😊

amother

Valerian

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 6:21 am

I'm always smiling and chilled.

amother

Daffodil

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 6:22 am

amother Amaranthus wrote:

That I'm a ray of sunshine 😊

That’s awesome! Good for you!

amother

Taupe

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 6:22 am

That I look so young, that im so skinny, I really don't love those compliments.

Complimented on my technical skills at work

That I am a good mother (from my DDs myriad of therapists)

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