Would you be ok sleeping on a trundle in a large closet

amother

Coffee

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 6:41 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Yes but is it ok to put them on trundle beds in a room that the only way out is through my bedroom
I’m mostly concerned with DIL,
Or is it better to put SIL on the couch.

There are absolutely NOTHING available in my area and DD doesn’t want to disappoint her kids

We can't answer for your kids. Ask them what they prefer and let them fight it out amongst themselves.

momof2+?

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 6:53 am

As a daughter in law, I wouldn’t mind sleeping on the trundle bed. It would be my choice. It would be free accommodations, and an opportunity to spend a vacation with family and warmer weather.

It is your son- right? Because my only concern is when he has to walk through your room to get to shachris and some of may still be sleeping.

ra_mom

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 6:54 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Yes I understand
If it was up to me I would send the adults on vacation and keep the kids with me
That’s all I care is to be with the little ones
I miss them so much
And they’ll be out by the Pool all day
If the weather doesn’t permit we have playrooms galore.

They usually take turns,

Family B- lives far from any family so they are thrilled to all be together, but I haven’t told them the sleeping arrangements
Family A adults are disappointed they really needed to relax they had a stressful medical situation that B”H turned out to not be as concerning as first thought

Is it better for family B to sleep out in the living room/dining room?

Ask family B if they prefer the large closet and en suite or the living room? That's the best option so they can choose and there are no surprises.
Do not take away family A's room that was booked long ago.

amother

Mintcream

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 6:59 am

I also have a walk in closet that can be a bedroom sometimes. I put kids in there very often.
If the family is aware before hand and is ok with it then there’s no issue.
The only other option you have is that you and your husband sleep in the living room and you give over your master bedroom.
It’s a tight squeeze however you do it. If everyone is fine with it and everyone gets along it could be fun.
Maybe just do it for shabbos and then send some people to a hotel.
Have fun!

dena613

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:01 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

- Maybe invite the children for sleeping and really send their parents on vacation!!!

- If I was a DIL, I wouldn't want to sleep in any room where a FIL or BIL would walk through.
If I was a SIL, I wouldn't want to sleep in any room where a MIL or SIL would walk through.

-and are you sure your 27 yr old daughter is ok sharing a bed with you? (I guess if you have a queen/king size bed separate from your dh's?)

amother

Poppy

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:03 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

At this point everyone knows that they all are coming

Family B called us before booking but they pouted and my husband felt bad
I tried asking for them to come a different weekend
But they want to come this weekend because it seems all the tri state area is here.

Family A don’t want to disappoint the kids
The kids call me everyday with the weather report and tell me how freezing they are
Even though they are in the house warm and toasty

I tried finding a hotel or Airbnb with in walking distance because of Shabbos
NONE

It’s 4 days
Besides coming in and out and the beds being on the floor, it’s quite comfortable
The closet is 15’ by 15’ (yes it’s not a typo) and they will have their own en-suite

Basically I’m asking option A or option B

If everyone knows they're all coming, let them decide. Give them the options and let them work it out between themselves. This way no one can be upset at you if the arrangements don't work out to their liking.

amother

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:03 am

amother [ Mintcream ] wrote:

First of all there is nothing available in the area
Believe me I looked
I can’t sleep on the couch because I also have my single 27yr old DD sleeping with me in my bed
It’s not a pull out couch it’s just a tight modern leather couch, not the fluffy kind.

amother

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:03 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

chanchy123

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:05 am

amother [ Mintcream ] wrote:

It’s a tight squeeze however you do it. If everyone is fine with it and everyone gets along it could be fun.
Maybe just do it for shabbos and then send some people to a hotel.
Have fun!

I think this is probably the best option - squeeze in for Shabbat and then send one family (or both? Or just the parents?) to a hotel/Airbnb.

amother

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:09 am

Their is one last option but they would all have to come to my house for Shabbos anyway
Which means packing and repacking
Plus I don’t want to do this to my parents

I have elderly parents almost 85+

They have an extra bedroom
But they are not shomer Shabbos
And everyone will have to move to me for Shabbos anyway

Plus I believe it’s too much for my parents
As they would want to lounge around there eat breakfast leisurely
Kids will want to run around, and they have A LOT of nick-nacks, etc.

Chayalle

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:11 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Family B called us before booking but they pouted and my husband felt bad

Ignore their pouting. It was their choice to decide to come when they knew family A was coming.

amother

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:37 am

Chayalle wrote:

Ignore their pouting. It was their choice to decide to come when they knew family A was coming.

I would but DH can’t
So it is what it is
It’s done with and I can’t go back
Plus they want all the cousins to be together

I rather they try it out now and see if it’s possible than all this balagan be during Pesach when I’m stressed enough

amother

Heather

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:40 am

Boys and Girls should not be in the same room or have access to each others rooms but sleeping in a closet is fine imo. As long as it's girls in a closet in a girls room or boys in a boys room. Its also just a few days. It will be a good memory for them

ra_mom

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:40 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I would but DH can’t
So it is what it is
Plus they want all the cousins to be together

I rather they try it out now and see if it’s possible than all this balagan be during Pesach when I’m stressed enough

That's a fair point. Let them try it out now. Then you'll be equipped with more knowledge about how to run pesach. Good luck and enjoy spending time with the family!

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amother

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:41 am

Iymnok wrote:

Send couple A away for two weekday nights to get the vacation and quiet they need. Then Shabbos could be a big happy balagan.

If you could find a place
There is NONE
It needs to be in Turnberry

amother

Coffee

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 7:44 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Send Parents A or B to grandparents that aren't shomer Shabbos.
They can buy a hotplate for $25 and warm their Shabbos food on that.