Would you be ok sleeping on a trundle in a large closet

amother

Mintcream

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 10:45 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

If you could find a place
There is NONE
It needs to be in Turnberry

During the week they can be in any hotel anywhere. They can either drive or Uber to your house.

amother

Amaryllis

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 10:54 am

I just want to say that if I was family A, I’d be so so pissed! Family B is basically ruining their much anticipated vacation. And so family B gets to be happy at family A’s expense. (And no, I wouldn’t either let down my kids.)
I’d be on this forum complaining that sibling B gets whatever they want and my parents love them more than me.
As much as you try, there is no way to fit everyone comfortably in your apt. And the chaos of that many people will not be fun for everyone.

amother

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 11:25 am

amother [ Coffee ] wrote:

Send Parents A or B to grandparents that aren't shomer Shabbos.
They can buy a hotplate for $25 and warm their Shabbos food on that.

Lol- they are elderly, it’s too much work for them
A short visit is ok but not more

Plus they have only room for 1 couple

amother

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 11:27 am

amother [ Amaryllis ] wrote:

This is exactly how I feel
But that’s for a different forum

amother

Coffee

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 11:30 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Lol- they are elderly, it’s too much work for them
A short visit is ok but not more

Plus they have only room for 1 couple

Just one set of parents. Not the kids.
You have the kids at your house.

amother

Mintcream

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 11:35 am

I’m surprised family B still wants to come!
Is family A upset or are they handling it well? They were keeping it a secret after all…
Some people are the type that they can sleep anywhere, any type of accommodations and they just value family time. Others (like me) just don’t function well after a poor nights sleep…
All depends on the people involved

tichellady

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 11:49 am

I think discuss with the kids. Some people are relaxed and some are not about these things. Nothing objectively wrong with sleeping in a closet.

amother

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 11:55 am

tichellady wrote:

I think discuss with the kids. Some people are relaxed and some are not about these things. Nothing objectively wrong with sleeping in a closet.

And the closet is HUGE 15’ x 15’
It’s bigger than a lot of Brooklyn bedrooms, lol

Mevater

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:02 pm

How does Covid enter into tight living conditions for even 4 days?

What if one person comes up with Covid?

singleagain

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:02 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

And the closet is HUGE 15’ x 15’
It’s bigger than a lot of Brooklyn bedrooms, lol

But the having to traipse through another room isn't something everyone might be comfortable with.

WhatFor

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:04 pm

Maybe it's too late to do anything now, but if you promised family A accommodations alone with you and DH, I don't think it was right to later permit another family to come. I assume family A booked tickets they might not have otherwise booked if they couldn't have comfortable accommodations. They were relying on a certain understanding. If this is a dealbreaker for them, I hope their tickets are refundable.

amother

Dimgray

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:18 pm

How about :
Family A - bedroom #2
Single daughter + family B kids in the closet
You and husband in your bedroom
Family B parents in Living room

( Based on the OP's original post)

amother

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:19 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

And the closet is HUGE 15’ x 15’
It’s bigger than a lot of Brooklyn bedrooms, lol

Now that I’m thinking it’s more like 18 by 18
It’s HUGE that’s all that I can say

amother

Whitewash

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:19 pm

Gonna add, make sure everyone is aware what the plan is before they get there so they can back out- they may decide it's not worth coming since no one will get any sleep. The worst vacation we ever had was when we went as a family of 6 to my grandmother's 2 br apt- I didn't sleep all week, just spent the entire week crying from exhaustion and skipped every single activity in the hope of getting some sleep while the house was quiet- I was a young teenager at the time, and I told my mother that I refuse to ever do that again.

amother

Coffee

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:21 pm

Mevater wrote:

How does Covid enter into tight living conditions for even 4 days?

What if one person comes up with Covid?

So they all have Covid and sleep in a closet for 2 weeks.
What's the big deal? LOL

jfk92

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:27 pm

What happened to being grateful that they have anywhere to even stay for a nice warm getaway, and to be put up for free. I'm just not even understanding what right anyone has to complain. If they don't like it then they don't need to take this offer.

dena613

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:35 pm

The issue is not the size of the closet.
It's the lack of privacy for all involved.

mommyX2

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:37 pm

I don't think there's anything wrong with sleeping in the closet. I would just make sure they know the arrangements and they can decide if they are ok with it. It's not like you have anything else to offer and are holding back, you sound like you are being very flexible and generous.
Another roption is send parents (one or both) to a hotel for the weeknights and only cram for shabbos. (Keeping the kids by you.)

WhatFor

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:39 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Now that I’m thinking it’s more like 18 by 18
It’s HUGE that’s all that I can say

What's the ventilation like in there?

dena613

Sun, Jan 23 2022, 12:40 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

First of all there is nothing available in the area
Believe me I looked

What do you mean by nothing available?

Not cheap, but they exist.
This hotel is close to chabad. I googled and didn't see any other orthodox sounding shuls in turnberry

https://www.marriott.com/reser.....nu.mi

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