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 Tue, Feb 16 2021, 1:30 pm
Ok, here goes. Hope it's clear.
We set the table Thursday night, we enjoy looking at a pretty table. We don't always set with plates but when we do, we do like this. When we have guests, it's my or DH siblings with their little kids, our single siblings, or DH single friend. We don't host big meals of more than 10 people.
DH comes home from shul, we usually stay on the couch till he's ready to make kiddush. We stand near our chairs for kiddush. All glasses are next to DH place & he pours wine for everyone. Sometimes the kids can sit down at the edge of their chairs while drinking. We don't "require" anyone to stay standing, this is just how it is. After kiddush everyone goes to wash and I collect all clean, untouched, and unbreathed on plates from the table. If a plate somehow got dirty, I obviously don't use it. Dips are prepared in small individual bowls according to everyone's taste. There’s a charger plate at everyone's place and the dip bowls go on that. I plate and serve the fish (yes, it looks nice and appetizing) while DH makes hamotzi, he has me in mind and I saw amen from the kitchen which is right off the dining room. I wash after I'm done serving the fish. (This is ok, we asked.) I know what everyone likes and it takes me about 3 minutes to serve the fish with the help of my girls. I don't like serving fish in platters to pass around because I find it unappetizing. I have never eaten a meal at a family that served the fish in a platter to pass around.
Hope this is clear.
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amother
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Tue, Feb 16 2021, 2:28 pm
| amother [ Orange ] wrote: | Ok, here goes. Hope it's clear.
We set the table Thursday night, we enjoy looking at a pretty table. We don't always set with plates but when we do, we do like this. When we have guests, it's my or DH siblings with their little kids, our single siblings, or DH single friend. We don't host big meals of more than 10 people.
DH comes home from shul, we usually stay on the couch till he's ready to make kiddush. We stand near our chairs for kiddush. All glasses are next to DH place & he pours wine for everyone. Sometimes the kids can sit down at the edge of their chairs while drinking. We don't "require" anyone to stay standing, this is just how it is. After kiddush everyone goes to wash and I collect all clean, untouched, and unbreathed on plates from the table. If a plate somehow got dirty, I obviously don't use it. Dips are prepared in small individual bowls according to everyone's taste. There’s a charger plate at everyone's place and the dip bowls go on that. I plate and serve the fish (yes, it looks nice and appetizing) while DH makes hamotzi, he has me in mind and I saw amen from the kitchen which is right off the dining room. I wash after I'm done serving the fish. (This is ok, we asked.) I know what everyone likes and it takes me about 3 minutes to serve the fish with the help of my girls. I don't like serving fish in platters to pass around because I find it unappetizing. I have never eaten a meal at a family that served the fish in a platter to pass around.
Hope this is clear. |
Thx for explaining orange.
Why just leave the charger empty minus the fish plates. That way you don’t have to scramble getting them before washing and you can join your husband for the bracha. Your anyhow not bringing out a prepared platter so just have the the fish already arranged on the counter before the men come home from shul ...
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Miri1
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Tue, Feb 16 2021, 3:46 pm
Did I understand right?
You make a brachah of your own when you sit down after you've washed?
And your husband's brachah is to have you in mind for the whole challahs?
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Iymnok
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Tue, Feb 16 2021, 4:04 pm
It’s ideal on Shabbos to make hamotzi over two complete loaves. In a pinch it could be two slices. That should not be a regular thing. Some people have two small rolls at each place in addition to the two challahs at the head.
Orange, that sounds like a very long hefsek between the brocha and the bite.
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Tue, Feb 16 2021, 4:09 pm
| Iymnok wrote: | It’s ideal on Shabbos to make hamotzi over two complete loaves. In a pinch it could be two slices. That should not be a regular thing. Some people have two small rolls at each place in addition to the two challahs at the head.
Orange, that sounds like a very long hefsek between the brocha and the bite. |
She said she makes her own bracha. I’ve never seen that do that is probably why no one realizes. The only time we make own bracha is leishev b’succah. Otherwise don’t make our own.
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Sprinkles1
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Tue, Feb 16 2021, 5:36 pm
Regarding having food on the table during kiddush:
I think that the issue is only with Hamotzi and Mezonos foods, because the order in which we are supposed to eat the brachos is Hamotzi, mezonos, hagafen, haetz, hoadama, shehakol. So if while making kiddush (hagafen) there is hamotzi or mezonos on the table, they should be covered so as not to 'shame' them.
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