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How often does your teen goes to sleep blowing...
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14% |
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14% |
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amother
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 Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:30 am
My teenager 17 yo went to sleep blowing tonight cuz I finally lashed out at her for not offering her help erev y"t and chickening out of everything and that have the utter chutzpah to ask if she can play on the computer tonight when I told her I would need a lot of her help for yom tov once the little ones are asleep...
This is a first... shes never gone to sleep blowing and without telling me good night, I hope this doesnt become the new norm... Ive blown plenty at my parents as a child and I know how unhealthy that can be
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amother
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:31 am
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I feel like I don't speak or understand English lol. What is blowing??
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amother
Candycane
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:32 am
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What do you mean "blowing"?
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amother
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:33 am
op here.. sorry... let me explain
Like REALLY mad and not on speaking terms...
In yiddish its bloozen... english translation is blowing
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amother
Purple
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:36 am
| amother OP wrote: | op here.. sorry... let me explain
Like REALLY mad and not on speaking terms...
In yiddish its bloozen... english translation is blowing |
ברוגז in Hebrew.
What help did you need from her?
She might be very angry and coming to give you a good night kiss might not be an option, let her cool down and in the morning speak to her
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Hamayvin Yavin
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:37 am
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Maybe edit and switch to fuming
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smss
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:37 am
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Are you planning to apologize for lashing out at her?
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amother
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:40 am
| smss wrote: | | Are you planning to apologize for lashing out at her? |
NO, because I think shes totally wrong
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amother
Chocolate
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:41 am
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I dont think she's at the age they offer. You have to ask explicitly
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amother
Purple
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:41 am
| amother OP wrote: | | NO, because I think shes totally wrong |
I think that children should see parents apologize if we did something wrong. How else can I expect my child to feel regret if I dont model it myself
I really think in the morning you can start off with an apology and say I am sorry at how I reacted last night. I felt very x because I had expectations that y would happen. It was also hard that we didnt say good night properly. Can we talk about last night?
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amother
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:42 am
| amother Chocolate wrote: | | I dont think she's at the age they offer. You have to ask explicitly |
if this is not the age then what is???
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amother
Purple
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:42 am
tension might have also been high if you have a ton to do and youre a one man show
but I also dont think teens should be expected to help for YT...
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amother
Valerian
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:46 am
| amother OP wrote: | | if this is not the age then what is??? |
If you need help, you need to ask instead of waiting & expecting others to offer. This applies to everyone. Your kids, your husband, your siblings.....
I don't think it was right of you to lash out at her when you haven't requested her help.
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amother
Valerian
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:47 am
| amother Purple wrote: | tension might have also been high if you have a ton to do and youre a one man show
but I also dont think teens should be expected to help for YT... |
Why ever not? Everyone in the household should pitch in when help is needed. Including teens.
Mom isn't supposed to slave away while teen is chilling on the computer. That is not okay.
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amother
Candycane
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:50 am
| amother Purple wrote: | tension might have also been high if you have a ton to do and youre a one man show
but I also dont think teens should be expected to help for YT... |
Why shouldn't teens have to pitch in? I didn't ask my teen to help because she is deep on finals and end of the year stuff, but she usually does help. My kids all have set chores. I think they 100% should learn how to help and perform domestic activities.
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amother
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:52 am
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amother
Camellia
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 12:54 am
| amother Camellia wrote: | | What?? Why?? Everyone in the family is expected to contribute if they're able. How is it ok that the mother is working her butt off while the teen is chilling on the computer? Where's a little derech eretz and responsibility? |
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amother
Moonstone
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 1:03 am
| amother Purple wrote: | tension might have also been high if you have a ton to do and youre a one man show
but I also dont think teens should be expected to help for YT... |
According to your logic it's always gonna be a one man show if the teens are never expected to help.
When's the tension supposed to lower?
I didn't realize teens were such privileged characters in the sense that their help shouldn't be expected.
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NechaMom
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 1:07 am
| amother Purple wrote: | tension might have also been high if you have a ton to do and youre a one man show
but I also dont think teens should be expected to help for YT... |
I feel bad for your teens and their spouses. Spoiled kids never get too far in life.
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