OK to ask this? | Imamother

amother

Wed, Oct 24 2012, 11:59 am

I live on the ens of town, there are 4 appt bldgs on my st, no stores......an acquaintance was walking by w/ her dh & when she saw me she stopped to shmooz.....after the basic "your baby got so big..." I asked "what brings you to this side of town?" (she lives waaaaay on the other side) she said "walking after a long day" was it ok to ask that?

auntie_em

Wed, Oct 24 2012, 12:01 pm

Yes, it was fine. You were making conversation.

Edit-I assume you don't live on the same street as the mikvah.

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amother

Wed, Oct 24 2012, 12:05 pm

auntie_em wrote:

Yes, it was fine. You were making conversation.

Edit-I assume you don't live on the same street as the mikvah.

no, lol, I do have SOME tact.

zaq

Wed, Oct 24 2012, 12:50 pm

It's all is how you say it. "What brings you to the 'hood?"=making conversation. "What are you doing here?"= hostile.

amother

Wed, Oct 24 2012, 12:52 pm

yes, I can't see why that would have made her feel uncomfortable unless she was doing something dodgy!

Isramom8

Wed, Oct 24 2012, 12:53 pm

I tend not to ask. If she wants to say, she will. Whatever. It's her business.

jaysmom

Wed, Oct 24 2012, 2:21 pm

Not horrible, but I would have said something like 'fancy meeting you on this side of town', that way she could smile and say 'yeah, I know. Hows everything?' or say why she was there.

Dolly Welsh

Wed, Oct 24 2012, 2:50 pm

No, it was not your business to ask that.

I may be accused of having too much imagination, but there can be lots of later ramifications stemming from little bits of speech like this. Please let it alone next time.

Yes, she MAY be have been visiting one of your immediate neighbors and didn't feel like saying who. Well, that's private.

You just can't ask people questions about their comings and goings, or really anything. They will tell you if they want to talk about it.

Good for you, for having the instinct this wasn't right, because it wasn't.

amother

Wed, Oct 24 2012, 2:54 pm

This once happened to me. I was seeing a therapist in a certain neighborhood and when the person I knew asked me I felt myself turn red and mumble something stupid.