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amother

Sun, Jul 31 2011, 9:27 pm

Ive been working on the techniques that Sara Y gives in her parenting classes on Akeres Habayis. I was listening and working on it for about 3-4 months. I really saw changes in myself and my family and I was thrilled! Everyone was happy and there was hardly any negativity in my home. My children were listening like never before and I felt great. B'h I am expecting now and I have been throwing up and exhausted for 3 months now. I feel like it will never end. Well all the techniques and accomplishments went out the window. I try to administer hand over hand but dont have the strength. I feel that since I cant follow through with what I say my kids sense it and are acting up more, making it more challenging for me to stay calm and stay positive.

I know when she spoke about hand over hand she said if you are not strong enough at the moment dont do it but what do I do if Ive been doing it for months and things were going so smoothly and now can not do it?

Please help me I dont want to lose everything we gained. Any advice? TIA!

WWG1WGA

Sun, Jul 31 2011, 9:33 pm

I think if the hand over hand worked for you already, it will work again. during these exhausting months, you have no choice but to 'surrender' at least until you feel up to it and your kids will know it was only temporary . If you follow through you will succeed , no matter if your '' on a break''. good luck!

Isher

Sun, Jul 31 2011, 9:56 pm

There is a number where you can leave a message with your question. Why don't you pose the question to her. Perhaps she will answer it on the next lecture.

amother

Sun, Jul 31 2011, 10:20 pm

Isher wrote:

There is a number where you can leave a message with your question. Why don't you pose the question to her. Perhaps she will answer it on the next lecture.

OP here. Is it still ongoing that she answers questions? I finished all the sessions so where would she be answering questions? I once emailed her with a question but never got a response.

happy mom1

Mon, Aug 01 2011, 12:15 am

btw, she said in one of her last lectures that the whole series will be going off the hotline after the summer, so you might want to listen one more time and write some points down to remember.
She said she'll be selling it on mp3 though.

Liebs

Mon, Aug 01 2011, 1:56 am

How do you get to hear her speeches? can anyone listen to tthe hotline? what is the number

junam

Mon, Aug 01 2011, 5:06 am

Can someone explain the hand on hand?

benny

Mon, Aug 01 2011, 6:44 am

junam wrote:

Can someone explain the hand on hand?

The # is 7185069057 press 7 then 2. I think its best if you listen to the whole series instead of just taking some techniques that she gives as they all work hand in hand and is part of a bigger picture.

The hand over hand technique is about your child understanding that you are the authority and when you tell them to do something they will listen immediately. That means not only cleaning up, but putting on their coat, coming out to the car... you are supposed to give them 8 seconds and then you come up behind them and hold them under the arm and do it with them. If its going somewhere you can walk them while holding them that way. If its doing something you hold the child under the arm and with your other hand take their hand and do the action with them. All this needs to be done calmly and when you are done say thank you for picking up the toy! Or thank you for putting on your coat! with a big smile.

It would be smart to listen to her explanation as she explains it very clearly.

benny

Mon, Aug 01 2011, 6:45 am

junam wrote:

Can someone explain the hand on hand?

The # is 7185069057 press 7 then 2. I think its best if you listen to the whole series instead of just taking some techniques that she gives as they all work hand in hand and its part of a bigger picture.

The hand over hand technique is about your child understanding that you are the authority and when you tell them to do something they will listen immediately. That means not only cleaning up, but putting on their coat, coming out to the car... you are supposed to give them 8 seconds and then you come up behind them and hold them under the arm and do it with them. If its going somewhere you can walk them while holding them that way. If its doing something you hold the child under the arm and with your other hand take their hand and do the action with them. All this needs to be done calmly and when you are done say thank you for picking up the toy! Or thank you for putting on your coat! with a big smile.

It would be smart to listen to her explanation as she explains it very clearly.

ludicrous

Sun, Dec 20 2015, 2:08 am

bumping up this thread, because I also had the same problem when I was pregnant and did not have the strength to administer hand over hand. what should I do?
also, is it really so bad to tell a child "don't" do something?

seeker

Sun, Dec 20 2015, 9:49 am

What age is this for? I can't imagine this hand over hand working with either of my kids since maybe one year old.

amother

Copper

Sun, Dec 20 2015, 11:02 am

I think she says the kid has to be able to understand commands and follow through. maybe age 2-3 you can start? something like that

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