How can my newborn stay up for 6 hours??!!!

amother

Magenta

Tue, Jan 28 2020, 7:24 pm

amother [ Periwinkle ] wrote:

Lol

I let my 6 week old cry in 2 minute intervals, my now 9 month old self-settles BH by now! I was just offering a suggestion, knew I'd get tomatoes Laugh

I'm not gonna start explaining what a kind, sensitive person I actlly am (I think?), just found that comment quite funny... Hatzlacha OP!

Everything I’ve read says no sleep training before 4 months.

mig100

Tue, Jan 28 2020, 8:08 pm

healthymom1 wrote:

Her days and nights are mixed up
That's normal. You rocked her all day inside and she slept and at night when you laid down she got up.

That's so interesting. Never realized that. Is that really why they shave day and night mixed up?

amother

Papaya

Tue, Jan 28 2020, 9:14 pm

amother [ Burgundy ] wrote:

There's a big difference between allowing a 6 week old to cry and a 9 month old!! And I'm thinking that maybe you feel comfortable letting your baby cry is because your mom let you cry, maybe it dulls sensitivity.

You know. A person can still be sensitive to their child's cry but know that what they are doing is the right thing for their child.

We cry all day for the Shechina to come and comfort us already. For some reason we havent had geulah yet. Can you imagine the pain the shechina is going through? To know your children are crying for you, but also know you just can't get them yet. I can. I've sat and read tehillim outside my crying baby's door. But I knew as his mother what was right for our family and him.

amother

Wed, Jan 29 2020, 5:01 am

She hates the swing. She only sleeps on her tummy. She’s on formula and takes an extra 2 oz at her 7-8 o’clock feeding. I’m in a dark room with her with minimal interaction from the first sign of sleepiness in the evening.
It’s baby #6, You would think I have this down pat by now LOL

Tonight she was asleep by 11 bh!

amother

Scarlet

Wed, Jan 29 2020, 7:45 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Tonight she was asleep by 11 bh!

What formula is she taking? Maybe you need to switch.

amother

Coffee

Wed, Jan 29 2020, 8:15 am

amother [ Periwinkle ] wrote:

Ok, get your tomatoes ready - but read my whole post before aiming TMI

My DD was a nightmare of a newborn when it came to sleeping. 9 months along I can tell you she never morphed into an angelic sleeper, but I think we've finally worked it out. I did the following in order to remain sane.
A newborn is allowed to cry. I fed her, changed her, swaddled her and put her in her bassinet THEN LEFT! I sat there timing 2 minutes before popping back in for a pat/rock/replacing paci etc. It was extremely unpleasant to hear her crying for those 2 minutes, but I just could not sit in tears trying to hold her to sleep every single morning, afternoon and evening. She was not a huge fan of the paci, but I kept popping it back in until she learnt to use it as a soother. It wasn't a miraculous solution; it took time to see results. She would cry for an hour in 2-minute intervals, then 45 minutes, then half an hour etc until she BH finally learned to just fall asleep. There is no harm in letting a newborn cry for maximum 2 minutes at a time - my friend took her 3mo for sleep training and was told this explicitly.
I am not talking about a baby who will settle in your arms and then sleep well once transferred to a bed. I am talking about the kind of 4 week old who will be up for 9 hours straight no matter WHAT you do.
You may now aim and fire... Shooting Arrow

The 2 min intervals still add up to an hour of crying. Not ok to do that to a newborn.

mha3484

Wed, Jan 29 2020, 11:53 am

One of my babies slept decently for the first month or two and then all of the sudden stopped. I was at the pediatrician for a different reason and happened to mention it and she recommended giving a probiotic. The two options were gerber soothe drops and florastor. It worked so well. It settled his stomach and he became much much less gassy and went back to sleeping. If you can try either of them I really recommend it!