S/O childcare optional for men

amother

Fuchsia

Thu, Jul 02 2020, 2:42 pm

I remember hearing that it used to be that the price of a house was reasonable for one salary. once some families started having two salaries they were able to pay more for houses, driving the prices up.

I do think that
larger families
higher standard of living
higher medical costs
larger student debt
right wing men going to work later sometimes with not much of a secular education
and higher tuition- especially in the modern orthodox world also plays a role.

We could probably live on just my dh's salary if I was willing to live more frugally. As it is I am a SAHM. I have some inheritance/ family gift money that we get yearly which I view as the equivalent of a salary but it allows for savings, helped buy a house...
I'm really bad at not wasting, don't want to live on tuna fish alone or in a basement apartment... but we have a small family, live in a place where tuition is subsidized, neither of us have any more student loan debt ( family paid for mine and my husband went to a local college), and my dh already had a degree with a lot of potential and a job when we got married.

I'm not judging other people's choices. More children is a beautiful thing, as is more years of learning... just saying they all play a role.