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Rutabaga
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Fri, Sep 11 2020, 8:44 am
It's a tough situation and I can't tell you what to do. I just have one quick suggestion - if you do go to the wedding, you don't have to take your mask off for family pictures. The photographer can airbrush out the mask and insert your face from other shots. Just make sure he takes lots of socially distanced pictures of you alone from different angles so he has enough shots to choose from.
B'shaa tova!
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amother
Khaki
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Fri, Sep 11 2020, 10:08 am
amother [ Violet ] wrote: | Oh I didn’t realize you can test positive in the hospital and that can complicate matters.
Hmmm... Donno what to do with that part... |
Depends which hospital. I know someone it just happened to and she was allowed to have her baby room in.
OP, can you make a plan b if you're not comfortable moving in to your parents? See if you can get a meal train going by friends, have some cleaning help, whatever it takes so you can focus on sleeping and the baby?
B'shaa tova!
Just caught up. I see you've made peace with not moving in. I think that's a good decision. Let me continue with the what would I do. It's possible I would go to the wedding but stay sd the whole time, with a mask, and not dance. I'm sorry if that's impossible in your situation, I don't know you and your family etc.
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Sat, Sep 12 2020, 5:58 pm
Still following this. I still think talking to your doctor would be the best idea and going with wahtver hhe or she says. Also talk to whoever your pediatrician is see what they say about moving in with your mom.
I think lots depend on what the sich is in your mom's home -- is it full of germy younger sibs? Is your mom or dad working like in a nursing home or hospital and exposed?
If not and if most of the people living in the house are gonna wear masks and wash hands, plus if you have access to your own bathroom, that makes a big difference. I think. But ask your doctor and give this info!!!!!
But if your mom expects you to come bc thats whats doen in your circles, youd better have a legit source to give her because shell be gutted if you dont.
As far as the wedding, whatever. Do what you want to do, but don't make your family crazy with your what your thinking. I dunno, there are a lot of reasons why your mom might have to make a regular wedding maybe the inlaws are pressuring. Show up, do pictures however your comfortable, if its a big hall keep your distancwe. sure your not going to be the only one bc you prob have older relatives too. But try not to make a fuss and think about how else you can make your sister the kallah happy cuz thats a mitzva.
bshaa tova!
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amother
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Sat, Sep 12 2020, 6:48 pm
My sister just got married. She had a regular wedding, but my parents set up tables outside the hall for a new one who was more comfortable staying outside. The chuppa was outside but everything else inside. Whoever want to wear a mask wore a mask. Most people did not, and we did have masks at the hall for people who wanted to put one on.
Personally I am 5 months pregnant, and did not wear a mask. I don't know if I have antibodies since I never tested but I was definitely exposed to the disease.
I would say to go, if you feel like wearing a mask, wear one. See if there's a possible way to set up tables outside.
I know some other people that bought really cute colored string, and that's how they danced with the kallah. maybe looking to that so you could dance with your sister but not be too close.
I personally would not miss my sister's wedding because of this but everyone's different.
I would also ask your doctor, my midwife didn't seem too concerned. She told me she herself was trying to avoid weddings because she sees so many patients but was completely unconcerned about me going (and traveling soon on planes)
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amother
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Sun, Sep 13 2020, 8:21 am
amother [ Bronze ] wrote: | My sister just got married. She had a regular wedding, but my parents set up tables outside the hall for a new one who was more comfortable staying outside. The chuppa was outside but everything else inside. Whoever want to wear a mask wore a mask. Most people did not, and we did have masks at the hall for people who wanted to put one on.
Personally I am 5 months pregnant, and did not wear a mask. I don't know if I have antibodies since I never tested but I was definitely exposed to the disease.
I would say to go, if you feel like wearing a mask, wear one. See if there's a possible way to set up tables outside.
I know some other people that bought really cute colored string, and that's how they danced with the kallah. maybe looking to that so you could dance with your sister but not be too close.
I personally would not miss my sister's wedding because of this but everyone's different.
I would also ask your doctor, my midwife didn't seem too concerned. She told me she herself was trying to avoid weddings because she sees so many patients but was completely unconcerned about me going (and traveling soon on planes) |
Right so it's a different situation- if the wedding was 2 months ago for sure I would go. It's more that the timing is right before I would have to go into the hospital to have the baby
also I know I could ask my midwife... but she's not Jewish and I feel like by telling her I would be motzi shem ra on basically our entire community because it sounds so so bad... like oh my sister's having a 300+ person wedding in the middle of corona.
this has been one of my big pet peeves about people making normal weddings during corona. like even if you believe corona is gone and you're not going to get sick, can't you see for one second how bad this makes us look in the eyes of others? And sure there are non jews doing it too but the fact is that being Jewish means that we live our lives under a microscope and everything that we do has the potential to reflect badly on our community as a whole, with potentially devastating repercussions.
she's chilled and I don't think she would freak out but I'm so embarrassed to tell her
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amother
OP
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Sun, Sep 13 2020, 8:23 am
amother [ Sienna ] wrote: | Still following this. I still think talking to your doctor would be the best idea and going with wahtver hhe or she says. Also talk to whoever your pediatrician is see what they say about moving in with your mom.
I think lots depend on what the sich is in your mom's home -- is it full of germy younger sibs? Is your mom or dad working like in a nursing home or hospital and exposed?
If not and if most of the people living in the house are gonna wear masks and wash hands, plus if you have access to your own bathroom, that makes a big difference. I think. But ask your doctor and give this info!!!!!
But if your mom expects you to come bc thats whats doen in your circles, youd better have a legit source to give her because shell be gutted if you dont.
As far as the wedding, whatever. Do what you want to do, but don't make your family crazy with your what your thinking. I dunno, there are a lot of reasons why your mom might have to make a regular wedding maybe the inlaws are pressuring. Show up, do pictures however your comfortable, if its a big hall keep your distancwe. sure your not going to be the only one bc you prob have older relatives too. But try not to make a fuss and think about how else you can make your sister the kallah happy cuz thats a mitzva.
bshaa tova! |
ya that's true. I just feel so bad bc I feel like if we don't go then I'm making this all about me and that's the last thing I want to do.
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