Feels like we’re barely making it

amother

Tue, Dec 26 2023, 4:26 pm

Expenses creep up and got so so high

Daycamp registration is around the corner
Groceries for the week went from $180 to $300-350 for a family of 5

I asked for a raise and did not yet get an answer
Dh asked and it’s unclear if he will get one

We’d like to try to conceive for baby # 4

We used to be able to put about 1200 in savings each month, now we’re trying to pay off $5000 on our credit card

Pesach is coming

Please Hashem help me out. Fincially I just want to be able to give tzedakah, pay tuition, have more kids, honor Shabbos and yt and buy tznius clothing and make simchos with peace of mind, not stress.
I know You can- I see my neighbors all have tremendous financial success so I’m asking You please please help us out!

Looking for hugs or validation

amother

Lily

Tue, Dec 26 2023, 4:46 pm

You are not the only one. You are also right, Hashem can really help you. For myself I have found that when I'm careful to honor Shabbos without a drop of selfish thought and when I bench with kavanah finances pick up. So much hatzlacha.

amother

Tue, Dec 26 2023, 4:53 pm

amother Lily wrote:

Ty
I’m learning emunah. I try to bentch with kavanah.
What do you mean about Shabbos?

amother

Tue, Dec 26 2023, 4:58 pm

pamother Puce wrote:

Hope you both get a raise!

Amein

Sharing a dvar Torah that I don’t recall where I heard it:
We say in Perek 130 in tehillim “harbeh imo fedus.” He has many ways of redemption! I may not even be able to fathom how it will happen. Hashem isn’t limited to raises etc- He can do anything.
I daven it should be in a happy way, not a sad or bittersweet way.

Please Hashem!

amother

Marigold

Tue, Dec 26 2023, 5:00 pm

amother OP wrote:

All I can say is I feel you completely
I have total emunah that Hashem will help us, and I just do my best right now. It’s all I could do
Dealing with medical issues, and at the same time my business has slowed down to almost a stop inexplicably. It must be from Hashem and it must be good.
I’m due soon with baby number 4, cleaning help is a non negotiable here.
Yes, Hashem, please answer all of our tefilos!!
You have massive storehouses filled with unimaginable financial success, please, just shower it on us so I can be a calmer wife and mother, so I can give tzedaka and yes, even buy beautiful things that I want!

amother

Lily

Tue, Dec 26 2023, 5:04 pm

amother OP wrote:

Ty
I’m learning emunah. I try to bentch with kavanah.
What do you mean about Shabbos?

I mean that I shop for shabbos b'lev shalem...with joy. I obviously don't Overbuy but I buy what makes the members of my family feel shabbos joy and I don't feel a squeeze at the price. Lkavod shabbos. I keep Hashems shabbos He should provide for me.