Chassidish Bar Mitzvah

amother

Tue, May 21 2024, 11:19 am

I wasn't sure where to put this.

DH told me on shabbos that chassidim don't lein at their bar mitzvahs. Coming from an MO background, this is so interesting to me. What do chassidish boys do for their bar mitzvah? I know litvish and MO lein.

amother

Electricblue

Tue, May 21 2024, 11:21 am

amother OP wrote:

They just get an aliyah. We lucked out, our boys don't need to get all stressed about leining!

amother

NeonOrange

Tue, May 21 2024, 11:29 am

My son just had his bar mitzvah.
He was olah- made the brachos and then said the brachos after maftir.

At his bar mitzvah he said a p'shetel that took at least 15 minutes.

Some boys don't finish the first sentence and they're cut off by the men singing in because they're shy.

The shabbos after he was also olah just for Baruch shepturani.

amother

Daylily

Tue, May 21 2024, 11:36 am

In my chassidus only oilah shabbos after bar mitzvah, not before. Don't make a big deal out of it.

amother

Tue, May 21 2024, 4:09 pm

so interesting!! I wonder where the idea of leining even came in then...

mha3484

Tue, May 21 2024, 4:14 pm

We are not chassidish but the shul/kollel we daven in only allows maftir and haftorah. No full parsha.

dankbar

Tue, May 21 2024, 4:16 pm

Chassidish hold if before bar mitzvah can't yet lein pasha only maftir.

amother

Clematis

Tue, May 21 2024, 4:18 pm

mha3484 wrote:

We are not chassidish but the shul/kollel we daven in only allows maftir and haftorah. No full parsha.

Same, it’s common in yeshivas and kollels and the yeshivish minyanim. I like that they learn the basics of leining but it’s much less pressure than the full parsha.

amother

Electricblue

Tue, May 21 2024, 4:20 pm

dankbar wrote:

Chassidish hold if before bar mitzvah can't yet lein pasha only maftir.

Even if it's the Shabbos after their bar mitzvah chassidish boys don't officially lein. Not the regular parshah and not maftir.
At least that's how it is in my chassidus.

amother

NeonBlue

Tue, May 21 2024, 4:23 pm

dankbar wrote:

Chassidish hold if before bar mitzvah can't yet lein pasha only maftir.

Everyone holds that before B"M cant lein whole parsha. Those that lein, only do so shabbos after.

Generally chassidim dont lein. Although in my very chassidish family, some do.

amother

NeonBlue

Tue, May 21 2024, 4:27 pm

mha3484 wrote:

We are not chassidish but the shul/kollel we daven in only allows maftir and haftorah. No full parsha.

Yes, and the reason for that is, that many times they make so many mistakes that its not fair to the oilam, that they dont hear a proper leining.

Amelia Bedelia

Tue, May 21 2024, 5:47 pm

mha3484 wrote:

We are not chassidish but the shul/kollel we daven in only allows maftir and haftorah. No full parsha.

Most chassidim don't lein maftir or haftorah either, whether before or after bar mitzvah. They only get an aliya.

amother

Mayflower

Tue, May 21 2024, 7:59 pm

amother NeonBlue wrote:

Yes, and the reason for that is, that many times they make so many mistakes that its not fair to the oilam, that they dont hear a proper leining.

That's not the reason. In order to lain you need to have reach puberty. Instead of embarrassing those who haven't... nobody lains...