How many parties are too many? Then what do I do for a gift?

chica

Mon, Mar 08 2010, 4:36 pm

So friends of ours got engaged over the summer (not frum.) They had a l'chaim right away, where dh and I gave them their engagement present.
Now we knew that they were going to have a long engagement (1 1/2 years). However we did not expect them to have another engagement party. This one is formal (at a country club).
There will also be a shower in a few months.

What do I do in terms of gifts?

Truthfully I'm annoyed with the fact that that they are having a second party and feel like they're being a bit greedy.

busydev

Mon, Mar 08 2010, 4:38 pm

Just dont give them another engagement gift. you did it and tahts enough.

chica

Mon, Mar 08 2010, 5:12 pm

Nope. They're bh doing very well. They're already living together in the house that they own.

amother

Fri, Mar 12 2010, 5:41 pm

Where I grew up, brides had LOTS of parties and showers--all of the mother's friends gave luncheons and teas-- but NO ONE expected more than 1 real engagement gift (and even that could be small) I'd say either bring nothing for the otehr parties (you gave your gift and your only job now is to celebrate with the couple!)
or if it's a smaller party/shower, you can give a novel kitchen instrument or cookbook.