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amother
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Fri, Sep 03 2010, 10:24 am
Thank you all
Good suggestion RachelEve, to have a list.
And yes some mothers are a little pushy. Also they usually ask me instead of asking to speak to her.
As far as doing it when they're in a pinch - it is really hard to differentiate what's urgent and not. In fact she almost refused one time, but did it when the mother urged. We found out after that it was a pikuach nefesh emergency (they're fine now B"H) but they obviously didn't tell us because they didn't want anyone knowing. Maybe that's why I feel nervous saying no. I know I can't volunteer someone else for chesed, but I just wanted advice from a chinuch perspective.
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Kayza
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Fri, Sep 03 2010, 1:09 pm
amother wrote: | Thank you all
Good suggestion RachelEve, to have a list.
And yes some mothers are a little pushy. Also they usually ask me instead of asking to speak to her.
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That's why you tell the parents that you will ask her. They need to learn that you are not going to make this decision for her (unless there are over-riding circumstances.)
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As far as doing it when they're in a pinch - it is really hard to differentiate what's urgent and not. In fact she almost refused one time, but did it when the mother urged. We found out after that it was a pikuach nefesh emergency (they're fine now B"H) but they obviously didn't tell us because they didn't want anyone knowing. Maybe that's why I feel nervous saying no. I know I can't volunteer someone else for chesed, but I just wanted advice from a chinuch perspective. |
That is NOT your responsibility. I'm sorry, but no parent has the right to expect that someone will respond to a pikuach nefesh emergency as such if they don't explain the circumstances. Your daughter has absolutely no obligation to treat every "I really must get somewhere very urgently and unexpectedly" as a potential pikuach nefesh.
In fact, this could have been a perfect teaching moment for a different issue a related issue. This is a perfect place to have a discussion of what is appropriate to share and when. Real live examples make it much easier to "get".
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