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Compare your hashkafa / religiosity to your parents

We are both Orthodox; I am more to the right

32%

[ 31 ]

We are both Orthodox; I am more to the left

12%

[ 12 ]

We are roughly equal in these areas

37%

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I am Orthodox; my parents are (were) not

16%

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Total Votes : 95

shirachadasha

Thu, Jul 12 2012, 8:21 pm

I'm curious about how hashkafa / religiosity tracks through the generations.
Feel free to include comparisons between yourself and your children, too.

amother

Thu, Jul 12 2012, 8:43 pm

I'm more right wing than my parents, and I gave my own children the same freedom to choose their own religiosity - half are like me and half are more like my parents.

shabbatiscoming

Thu, Jul 12 2012, 11:15 pm

My parents are MO and so am I. I have not really gone any derech that is different than them. Pretty much the same.

freidasima

Thu, Jul 12 2012, 11:25 pm

And I would say "exactly the same" not even "pretty much"

shabbatiscoming

Thu, Jul 12 2012, 11:26 pm

freidasima wrote:

And I would say "exactly the same" not even "pretty much"

I say pretty much because I think that I went a drop to the left religiously from my parents, not that much but a few things here and there.

grace413

Fri, Jul 13 2012, 1:52 am

Pretty much the same, as are my brother and sister. I'm more stringent on some things than my parents, less on others.

Unfortunately the next generation isn't looking too good.

chani8

Fri, Jul 13 2012, 2:16 am

Well, this thread cheered me up.

My kids are doing great compared to me at their age...in all ways.

Too bad being religious doesn't solve all the problems.

Karnash

Fri, Jul 13 2012, 2:45 am

My parents are European yeshivish (not the current American model), I'm DL, my kids range from charedi to chardal to both right and left wing DL

Hmmm....I think I did an OK job.

33055

Fri, Jul 13 2012, 4:38 am

I am more to the right; but it is a function of my marriage. I was brought up MO and I thought that is how my marriage was going to be based on our premarital discussions. We used the same words but defined them differently. I thought we were on the same page.

amother

Fri, Jul 13 2012, 6:54 am

I am much more to the left - more "open minded" than what my mom would like me to be - but that doesn't mean I slack of in holocho.
For example, I cover my hair with scarves, she is all upset I don't have a wig
I do not wear yeshivish style clothes, I have more contemporary and comfortable kind of style - but I keep all tznius rules - she is embarrassed.
I got married through SYS, and she still thinks there are no good boys on the internet, even though my husband is a PRINCE! She hated him before she ever knew anything about him, and continews to do so.
She just cares about what's culturally excepted in Lakewood - nothing to do with religion.

morah

Fri, Jul 13 2012, 7:04 am

I'm much more to the right than my parents. It used to cause issues, but not anymore. Once I started respecting who they are (as is common when people become more frum, I was a little over-zealous and holier-than-thou for a while) they came to accept the way I've chosen to do things.

Ruchel

Fri, Jul 13 2012, 7:15 am

I don't really speak in left and right (find it very confusing, it sounds like politics), but I am stricter in many things than my parents, who are typica for their circles and generations.
I still wish I had their middos, emuna and modesty.

StrongIma

Sat, Jul 14 2012, 1:30 pm

Ruchel wrote:

and I so wish that we would use these criteria as standards of religiosity rather than style of dress or even minutiae of halacha. Sad

this is something that I myself strive for and find difficult to achieve.

Isramom8

Sat, Jul 14 2012, 2:34 pm

I voted wrong. I thought the question was about me and my husband.

About my kids, the grown ones are all of the following: more to the right, more to the left, and basically the same. None too far from us, really - depends on what things you consider a "lot" different.

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