The nonexistent crime

amother

Wed, Sep 03 2014, 8:57 pm

Pain
In my pelvic floor
In my perineum

Disgust
At myself
At him
At it

Fear
Of pain and trauma
Never going away

Anger
At stupid people
Who say,
"Why were you there
In the first place?"

"Are you sure you did not consent?"

"He's a man. What did you expect?"

"Why were you alone?"

Painfearangerdisgustpain

The nonexistent crime
No violence
No drugs
No problem

But it wasn't my choice

I did not consent

Tell me
Does this
Crime
Exist
Or is
My pain
Imaginary?

imasinger

Wed, Sep 03 2014, 9:06 pm

This makes me overwhelmingly sad, and utterly disgusted.

Sad for, and wanting to hug and help anyone who has to suffer such abuse.

Disgusted that there are still people so uneducated as to say the things that are quoted in this piece.

It has been trumpeted for decades that touching a woman who says no is ASSAULT and that she is a VICTIM. And that it is despicably evil to blame a victim.

I wish I could believe that this piece is fiction. But it sounds like it really happened.

I could vomit.

amother

Wed, Sep 03 2014, 9:09 pm

imasinger wrote:

OP: it happened recently.

Zehava

Wed, Sep 03 2014, 10:09 pm

Yes yes yes yes yes yes
It's a despicable crime
It's called rape
People get years in jail for it
He is a monster
You are an unfortunate victim
Don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise
I'm so so sorry for your immense pain
May god give you the strength and fortitude to move forward and become a survivor.

amother

Wed, Sep 03 2014, 10:54 pm

amother wrote:

OP: it happened recently.

Who did it to you?

imasinger

Thu, Sep 04 2014, 6:23 am

If you haven't yet done anything about reporting the crime, please at least call your OB for further guidance and treatment. And a referral to a therapist to deal with the natural emotional backlash.

If rape is reported to the police immediately (from clinic, hospital, or police station), they can obtain evidence against the perpetrator. It's probably too late for that now, but everyone here should be made aware of the fact.