Your seder/sedarim -- the good and the challenging

imasinger

Sun, Apr 05 2015, 9:19 pm

Share at least one of each. Here are mine.

The challenging: 1) the non frum family with a DS (20) with autism, who showed up at our seder wearing a pair of pants that were covered on the seat with something that looked to his dad like it was probably flour. After my first OCD gasp, I decided that our kol chamira was good, and he was unlikely to sit on any serving dishes. 2) the second seder guests who misjudged the walk, and showed up an hour late, so that by the time we finished, I was a real basket case. Note to self: nap is more important than anyrhing, even if it means leaving lunch guests.

The good, b"H: 1) For the first time ever (after many DMC's with DH on the subject of the importance of appreciation), DH began seder by welcoming guests... and publicly thanking me! Yes, ladies, they really can learn to do it. 2) Our kids participated beautifully, as did all our guests. I am very, very happy. Almost as happy about that as I am that there is no seder tonight!

SingALong

Sun, Apr 05 2015, 9:55 pm

I set the table on Thursday. Pillows, kaaras, everything. Was my first time making Seder with guests so it took me kinda long, trying to figure out what I needed to put out. With all the last minute things going on erev Pesach I was glad that the table was set and done.

I kept warm food out for kids, burgers, potato kugel, etc. so the little kids could still eat while the men were in shul and they were easier to manage by Seder.

Arranging cleaning help early morning after Seder...biggest lifesaver ever!!!

Rubber Ducky

Sun, Apr 05 2015, 10:07 pm

The challenging: DS#1 and family are away for all of Pesach for the the first time ever. DS#1 has, for all intents and purposes, led the seder for years (a benefit of having FFB kids). And no little grand-ducklings here this year. Waaahh!

The good: 1) With dear son #1 and family away, DS#2 masterfully led the seder both nights, had answers to practically all questions, and kept discussion flowing. I sometimes forget how capable and focussed DS#2 is — what nachas! 2) My friend's on-the edge teenage kids were fully engaged and really participated. One of them, after a discussion of why the (4 sons') simple son gets a a very short answer to his question, even remarked that when he has a son at the seder he'll give lengthy and detailed explanations of events. And then didn't chap why everyone was staring at him. Heaven!

OutATowner

Sun, Apr 05 2015, 11:05 pm

The good: My young children were up and participating.
The challenging: My young children were up and participating.
I guess that's what it's all about Smile