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Boy has crush on me

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amother

Royalblue

Thu, Oct 22 2015, 9:00 pm

Please no negativity. I work in a school for boys with social and emotional problems. A teenager has a crush on me. I'm just wondering would you be flattered or horridied

amother

Blue

Thu, Oct 22 2015, 9:03 pm

Amused. and feel pity. (I have and am now working with teenage boys)

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Sake

Thu, Oct 22 2015, 9:05 pm

I would feel sad for him.

amother

Gray

Fri, Oct 23 2015, 11:31 am

Neither. It happens.

You may need to set more clear boundaries with you students to keep their emotions in check.

causemommysaid

Fri, Oct 23 2015, 11:37 am

It wouldn't bother me. that's the way teenagers are.

amother

Smokey

Fri, Oct 23 2015, 11:46 am

Definitely would not be flattered...

dr. pepper

Fri, Oct 23 2015, 12:46 pm

I agree with the amused reaction.
But please consider setting clear boundaries (if you don't already)...if not for your sake, then for theirs.

amother

Silver

Fri, Oct 23 2015, 1:08 pm

- Set Clear Boundaries.
- Discuss it with your supervisor and have it documented. (I know of a case were a teen was trying to make a teacher interested in her and after he ignored it a few times she reported him for inappropriate behavior, because there was a documented history of what was going on and it was constantly discussed with supervisor it didn't get blown out proportion).

amother

Royalblue

Fri, Oct 23 2015, 1:13 pm

Yes I definitely discussed it with supervisor and set clear boundaries .. And I do find it amusing and pitiful . I am not his teacher so dnt have direct contact with him

zaq

Fri, Oct 23 2015, 4:32 pm

It would depend on what he does to show his feelings. Annoyed, possibly. Amused, possibly. Pitying, probably. Not flattered. What's flattering about it if the kid is not 100%?

amother

Coffee

Thu, Nov 05 2015, 6:31 pm

I wouldn't be either. I wouldn't be horrified, he is a teenage boy, not a monster. It's nothing to be horrified about. I wouldn't be flattered since he's clearly a vulnerable person and for me to feel flattered wouldn't be appropriate, he's not my husband.
He's not a monster for having a crush on a female. It just means that you need to keep distance from him. For example, switch classes. This will help to dissolve the feelinhs he has towards you, hopefully.
I know it sounds mean, but if he's made awarr that he's not anything "special" to you then he will forget about you after a while. Of course all children and teenagers should be made to feel special by their teachers, that's why you should swap with another teacher, who he doesn't have a crush on.

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