Do you think it’s ok for married siblings to hug each other?

amother

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 5:02 am

Do you think it’s ok for married siblings of opposite gender to hug each other? I am much older then my brother and he is more like a son to me then a brother but I was told that a brother and a sister are not allowed to hug according to Halacha whether I am single or married but especially when I am married.

weasley

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 5:08 am

When I meet one of my brothers and weve not seen for a while then yes we hug. Its not a long hug or anything just an expression of care for each other.

Zeleze

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 5:28 am

A palin hug, why not?

It's does'nt have to be like a BF and GF of like husband but a plain hug.... SURE

Did'nt you hug them at your wedding ?

thunderstorm

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 6:48 am

Zeleze wrote:

A palin hug, why not?

It's does'nt have to be like a BF and GF of like husband but a plain hug.... SURE

Did'nt you hug them at your wedding ?

In the context described above, yes, we hug.

amother

Lavender

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 6:54 am

Zeleze wrote:

A palin hug, why not?

It's does'nt have to be like a BF and GF of like husband but a plain hug.... SURE

Did'nt you hug them at your wedding ?

No I didn't hug my brothers at my wedding. This would be inappropriate in my circles.

thunderstorm

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 6:56 am

amother wrote:

No I didn't hug my brothers at my wedding. This would be inappropriate in my circles.

In your circles would it be appropriate for a father to hug his adult daughter ?

amother

Lavender

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:06 am

Bizzydizzymommy wrote:

In your circles would it be appropriate for a father to hug his adult daughter ?

He wouldnt do it publicy. Though father and brother are completely different halachically. My father would obviously kiss me. Not my brothers.

I'm regular yeshivish BTW. Nothing extreme. As far as I know, it says in kitzur shulchan aruch that it's wrong.

thunderstorm

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:08 am

amother wrote:

Can you please provide the passuk of what it says? Thanks

amother

Lavender

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:17 am

Bizzydizzymommy wrote:

Can you please provide the passuk of what it says? Thanks

Someone posted this recently on here from the Rambam.

כא,ו המחבק אחת מן העריות שאין ליבו של אדם נוקפו עליהן, או שנישק אחת מהן--כגון אחותו הגדולה, ואחות אימו, וכיוצא בהן--אף על פי שאין שם תאווה ולא הנאה כלל, הרי זה מגונה ביותר. ודבר זה אסור הוא, ומעשה טיפשים הוא--שאין קרבין לערווה כלל, בין גדולה בין קטנה: חוץ מהאם לבנה, והאב לבתו.

Reading sefarim isn't my strong point, though I will check further if you want.

ETA: Concerning hugging and kissing sisters see Rambam (Issurei Biah 21:6) and Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer 21:7); for the age of 11 see Shulchan Aruch 73:4. And Igros Moshe 144.

thunderstorm

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:24 am

amother wrote:

THank you. I just gave DH homework. He has never heard of this either. He will read up on it .

cnc

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:26 am

Bizzydizzymommy wrote:

Can you please provide the passuk of what it says? Thanks

Pretty sure that it says in Rabbi Falk’s Sefer that adult siblings of opposite genders should refrain from hugging and kissing. Everything there is sourced.
(I know that not everyone holds of his Sefer - but I’m just putting this out there because there is such a concept and the poster didn’t take it from nowhere...)

amother

Lavender

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:28 am

Bizzydizzymommy wrote:

THank you. I just gave DH homework. He has never heard of this either. He will read up on it .

Seems R' Moshe Feinstein paskens this way as well.

ETA: If others hold differently that's fine. I'm just quoting sources because you asked for it.

daagahminayin

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 7:58 am

We didn’t for years after we both became frum, but when I saw him for his wedding I did hug him - I felt it was better to not be strict in this area and show him my love instead.

amother

Denim

Wed, Mar 07 2018, 8:22 am

Bizzydizzymommy wrote:

Can you please provide the passuk of what it says? Thanks

A passuk is a verse in Tanach. A line from a halacha sefer isn't a passuk.