What's considered "a lot" of kids?

amother

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:05 am

Someone recently mentioned to me that she has "a lot of kids."
According to her age, it's highly unlikely she has 10 or 12....

I'm curious what this means, though I'm not one to ask for more info than is offered and I'm not too close with her.
So my question is, what's the least that "a lot" can be??

srbmom

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:08 am

I always thought of "a lot" as more than 5. But I grew up in a community where most of the families were 3-5 kids so that will obviously influence my feelings

amother

Cerise

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:10 am

That's very community dependant. When I hear a lot of kids I think 10+ but I know that in some communities it's 15+ and in others it's 4+

amother

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:14 am

I understand it's relative.
But would someone really say "a lot of kids" for 4 or 5 children?

6 and up I'd also think is a lot.

amother

Rose

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:15 am

Anyone that has more than me LOL

amother

Forestgreen

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:15 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I understand it's relative.
But would someone really say "a lot of kids" for 4 or 5 children?

6 and up I'd also think is a lot.

For me six is a small family

liveandlove.ima

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:15 am

That's on who you ask?

1. Someone in mid 20's 5> is a lot
2. Someone in mid 30's 10> is a lot
3. Average secular family 3> is a lot

amother

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:16 am

amother [ Rose ] wrote:

Anyone that has more than me LOL

So was she just trying to say she has more than me? Wink

honeymoon

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:17 am

It's dependent on community and age. Having 4 kids at 23 is a lot. 4 kids at age 35 is not a lot imho.

amother

Papaya

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:17 am

could be she meant a lot based on the amount of years married- like 5 kids in 6 years is a lot!!

amother

Crimson

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:20 am

amother [ Forestgreen ] wrote:

For me six is a small family

What community are you part of?
I’m part of a chassidish community in Monsey. While the average is 8, 6 is considered a nice size family.

amother

Maroon

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:25 am

amother [ Crimson ] wrote:

What community are you part of?
I’m part of a chassidish community in Monsey. While the average is 8, 6 is considered a nice size family.

I'm chassidish in Monsey too, but that's a very broad term.
In my neck of the woods, 6 is considered small, but not tiny. Most of my friends had 6 in their early 30s and didn't stop there.
9-10 average.

amother

Forestgreen

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:31 am

amother [ Crimson ] wrote:

What community are you part of?
I’m part of a chassidish community in Monsey. While the average is 8, 6 is considered a nice size family.

It has nothing to do with community for me. I grew up in a really large Family(by any standards, think Duggar type) so to me 6 is small.

amother

Plum

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:45 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I understand it's relative.
But would someone really say "a lot of kids" for 4 or 5 children?

6 and up I'd also think is a lot.

Absolutely. I'm from a MO background and live in a DL/mixed community, I have 4 kids, and we're one of the larger families in the area.

amother

Lavender

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:49 am

amother [ Papaya ] wrote:

could be she meant a lot based on the amount of years married- like 5 kids in 6 years is a lot!!

This.

amother

Periwinkle

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 12:50 am

We are MO, live in a mixed but young community, and we are older. The yeshivish young people are not finished having kids. We have 5 and I consider that a lot. Although my neighbor has 8. 5 is pretty average among the people who are finished.

amother

Scarlet

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 2:06 am

Everything is relative .
To me 7 and up is a big family .
My neighbors and cousins that have 13+ think 7 is small!

Rappel

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 2:23 am

4 under the age of 4 is a lot. After that, it's all relative

amother

Khaki

Sun, Nov 01 2020, 5:39 am

I think over 20 is a lot. Wish I could have a baby every year.