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amother
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:35 pm
We were in a rush to get to PTA and Dh wanted to give the Chanukah money at PTA, and asked how much. I knew we had a $50 in the drawer and I thought if I suggested $100 Dh would say "really? That much?" So I just said let's give $50, which we did.
Now I feel bad, I feel we should have given $100. I know we can give more on Purim but I still feel bad.
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QueensMama
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:37 pm
You can also send a gift on Chanukah itself. I'm sure it will be appreciated!
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flmommy
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:37 pm
$50 is a lot. Don’t feel bad.
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amother
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:38 pm
Don't feel bad
That's very nice gift
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amother
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:38 pm
QueensMama wrote: | You can also send a gift on Chanukah itself. I'm sure it will be appreciated! |
What sort of gift would a rebbi appreciate?
(We gave a sefer along with the money, so I wouldn't send another sefer)
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amother
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:40 pm
I dont know what is normal in your area but I am guessing lots of people reading this are feeling even worse about their $18 checks
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Ihatepotatoes
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:40 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | We were in a rush to get to PTA and Dh wanted to give the Chanukah money at PTA, and asked how much. I knew we had a $50 in the drawer and I thought if I suggested $100 Dh would say "really? That much?" So I just said let's give $50, which we did.
Now I feel bad, I feel we should have given $100. I know we can give more on Purim but I still feel bad. |
Doesn't sound like a very low amount to me. Especially this year, when even if it were a small amount a rebbi would assume it's because people aren't doing well financially.
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amother
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:44 pm
amother [ Brunette ] wrote: | I dont know what is normal in your area but I am guessing lots of people reading this are feeling even worse about their $18 checks |
I live in Lakewood where apparantly it's standard to tip a rebbi as much as you can.
The reason for my feeling bad is because technically we could have given more. I'm annoyed that I cheaper out at the rebbi' expense. Had it not been an option to give more, I wouldn't feel guilty.
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gold21
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:45 pm
$50 is a nice tip. Consider that Rebbe likely has 25 students. What is 25 times 50? $1,250. That's a nice Chanukah bonus.
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QueensMama
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:47 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | What sort of gift would a rebbi appreciate?
(We gave a sefer along with the money, so I wouldn't send another sefer) |
Gift certificate to a Judaica store?
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amother
Aubergine
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 7:48 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | What sort of gift would a rebbi appreciate?
(We gave a sefer along with the money, so I wouldn't send another sefer) |
A thing of chocolates
Gift certificate to a judaica store (Or to a food establsihment)
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amother
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 8:06 pm
$50 is extremely generous.
You could send a card with a food item if you feel like you want to do more?
But really, it's very generous!
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amother
Orange
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 8:11 pm
Send over a dozen donuts before shabbos!
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yksraya
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 8:25 pm
Don't feel bad. It's a nice Amount, especially that you also gave a sefer.
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amother
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 8:50 pm
wow. I never gave a tip of more than $25 to any rebbi. and thats in 15 years of having multiple sons with rebbeim. cant afford more.
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amother
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 9:08 pm
Its perfectly fine.
What's done is done. It is strange to give a tip with a sefer, and then a few days later give another gift. overkill.
Quote: | live in Lakewood where apparantly it's standard to tip a rebbi as much as you can. |
lol. In Lakewood it's standard to do everything as much as you can.
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yonabets
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Thu, Dec 10 2020, 9:12 pm
Just curious:
How many times of the year you give a tip to rebbis?
Is it something American or just in Lakewood?
Here in Israel ,you give on Purim and end of the year.Maybe people give on more occasions but I didn't hear about it..
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amother
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Fri, Dec 11 2020, 5:12 am
You can give more on Purim if it bothers you. But really you’re fine. It sounds as though your husband was comfortable with 50 and he definitely gets a say too.
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amother
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Fri, Dec 11 2020, 5:29 am
I also gave $50. And no Sefer. You're fine, OP. Don't worry.
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pbandjelly
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Fri, Dec 11 2020, 6:16 am
I think $50 is very generous! If there are 20 students in the class and they each give $50, that is $1000!
I think that was extra thoughtful to give the sefer as well.
If you feel bad then next time you give a gift (Purim etc...) You can include the extra $50 if you like.
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