Dd asking to wear jeans

amother

Whitesmoke

Sun, Oct 03 2021, 9:02 pm

amother [ Fuchsia ] wrote:

Op, I'm from a BY/yeshivish community, so things might be a little different. My dd is "at risk" "struggling" probably even OTD. I've been told that my job right now is to show her that I love her and accept her however she chooses to be and act. She dresses completely not tznius, jeans, pants, shorts, cleavage. For a while she wasn't shomer Shabbos, but now she's trying very hard to be good about it. She's very respectful and won't walk in the neighborhood or go out with anyone in our family in very revealing clothing, she'll wear long pants and short sleeves, no shorts, no sleeveless tops or cleavage. She saves her revealing clothing for in the house or out with her friends.

B"H we have a good relationship today, and I credit it to the fact that I always accepted her, no matter what she was doing or wearing.

You are a righteous woman. I wish my mother would have been like you.

amother

Rainbow

Sun, Oct 03 2021, 9:59 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

My dd (16) has been asking to wear jeans/pants. My heart hurts to watch her struggle with her Yiddishkeit, but I don’t know how to help her. Should I let her make the decision, but make it clear that I don’t support it? Should I encourage her to strengthen her relationship with Hashem? Any advice and support is appreciated.

Ask a Rov and therapist.