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amother

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:23 pm

Hi looking for advice

im a therapist and need to speak to the rebbe to see how my boys are doing when it comes to classroom performance, socially, during kriyah and parsha ...

but the rebbe refuses to speak to me (women in general)
in general he doesnt really see a point in therapy

any ideas of how to gain this classroom insight from him without disrespecting his gedarim

tysm

amother

Firebrick

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:25 pm

Can you communicate in writing?

amother

Fuchsia

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:26 pm

Ask for a copy of their report card.

amother

Cappuccino

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:27 pm

Can you talk to the English teacher

amother

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:27 pm

amother [ Firebrick ] wrote:

Can you communicate in writing?

how would that work? it would be a 4 page essay for each boy lol I need a back and forth with him to ask him specific questions about classroom performance

amother

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:27 pm

they do not learn english in school and no report cards.

scientist

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:29 pm

Maybe ask the menahel to help you find a solution?

amother

Turquoise

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:29 pm

Well then you’re clearly in a specific type of school. If that’s the school you chose, have your husband ask him all the questions.

amother

Firebrick

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:30 pm

I would suggest that you go to the principal, present your dilemma, and ask him/her how exactly you are expected to proceed. Perhaps this has come up before and been dealt with?

amother

Pear

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:30 pm

Would he be comfortable speaking to you on the phone, possibly with his wife sitting with him if that's what makes him comfortable?

amother

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:30 pm

amother [ Turquoise ] wrote:

Well then you’re clearly in a specific type of school. If that’s the school you chose, have your husband ask him all the questions.

wasnt by choice
I was placed there for my hours
deff not my hashkafa so im trying to respect and understand it yet also give my students the best therapy for their needs

amother

Firebrick

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:31 pm

amother [ Turquoise ] wrote:

Well then you’re clearly in a specific type of school. If that’s the school you chose, have your husband ask him all the questions.

That might not be okay - confidentiality and all that.

amother

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:32 pm

amother [ Pear ] wrote:

Would he be comfortable speaking to you on the phone, possibly with his wife sitting with him if that's what makes him comfortable?

I can not imagine this ever happening especially since I dont want to spend hours after work speaking to him and not getting paid but maybe I will just ask him in school and look at the floor when I speak to him lol idk at this point what to do

my sons rebbeim all speak to me when I have to discuss school progress

amother

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:32 pm

amother [ Firebrick ] wrote:

I would suggest that you go to the principal, present your dilemma, and ask him/her how exactly you are expected to proceed. Perhaps this has come up before and been dealt with?

I wish I could explain the dynamic of how dysfunctional the hanhala is

amother

Bluebell

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:33 pm

You need to discuss this with the administration/principal. They will have to figure out a solution.

I don't see why you can't talk to the rebbe over the phone?

#BestBubby

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:33 pm

Does Rebbe talk to the parents?

Maybe ask parents to ask the questions and take notes for you.

cupcake123

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:34 pm

Who hired you ? Are you thru the parents? BOE? Can you tell the parents to talk to the rebbie

amother

Stone

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:35 pm

Have you approached him yet? What did he say? Ask him how you can discuss this with him, let him tell you what makes him feel the most comfortable.

amother

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:36 pm

he speaks to fathers not wives.
when I asked him once about how a kid was in class he told me he doesnt feel comfortable answering and to only speak to the mother.
I work for an agency.

oh well. I tried I guess. ill just continue what I was doing

#BestBubby

Thu, Dec 30 2021, 9:36 pm

Get one of those voice changers that make you sound male.

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