S/o parenting experience as an introvert vs an extrovert

Log in / Sign Up

List of Forums + New Post Recipe Box Usergroups Following My Posts Bookmarks

Private Messages Advanced Search Rules New User Guide FAQ Advertise Contact Us

Forum -> Parenting our children

View latest: 24h 48h 72h

amother

Sat, Nov 26 2022, 10:32 pm

As a introvert who loves quiet, calm, routine- I just cant wait till all my kids are asleep and I have a quiet kitchen to myself.. is that exclusive to introverts or do all moms count the minutes to bedtime? im curious- do extroverts love the action, company etc of their children and teens in the evening?

amother

Chartreuse

Sat, Nov 26 2022, 10:59 pm

INFP. Big introvert here. Youngest in my family. Had a hard time with noise. Yes parenting was much harder for me. My body shook when my kids cried. Couldn't handle the kids fights. I was not patient with the little ones. Fast forward 25 years. I love being a Grandma!!. I love and can handle my Grandkids fights, messes, thoughts. Love reading with them, building the train set with them. They make a mess, things spill. At the end of the day (or 3 days if they come for a few days) they go home to their Mommy and Daddy and Grandma goes back to her quiet until the next time!! LOL

amother

Steel

Sat, Nov 26 2022, 11:09 pm

amother OP wrote:

When you have teens there is no quiet in the evening. They often go to sleep later than you.

As an introvert, I find it very draining.

As a child, I might have had siblings around, but I could hide in my room. Not schmooze.

As a parent I dont take it for granted that my teens and young adults want to talk to me and I feel it's my responsibility to be there for them when they want to. As I have a large family,, this means every night... I do go to sleep, but until that time I am available.

amother

Thistle

Sat, Nov 26 2022, 11:11 pm

I’m an introvert. I love spending time with them. But I also need my space and my quiet at night.

amother

Butterscotch

Sat, Nov 26 2022, 11:16 pm

I'm an extrovert. There's noise and talking all day. I relish to have quiet at times.

amother

DarkCyan

Sat, Nov 26 2022, 11:17 pm

I'm an extrovert, but I definitely sometimes just need to be alone. I do look forward to my me-time every night (and often stay up later than I should because I really need it). Also, I don't really like other people's kids much, so playdates are hard. And though I have tons of friends and love getting out and socializing, my friends and the parents of my kids' friends don't necessarily have much overlap, I find some of the other moms very difficult and exhausting to deal with.

amother

Stoneblue

Sun, Nov 27 2022, 12:11 am

Another INFP here! I find parenting to be draining too... Although heart to heart talks with my teen in eve is something I do relish sometimes.

that being said weekends are a blender to my nerves. I relish Monday mornings where everyone's Back to routine.

amother

Orchid

Sun, Nov 27 2022, 12:22 am

I'm an extrovert but everyone needs quiet time. I don't mind most of my kids' friends. There are a few annoying ones but I really enjoy the majority of them.
I love hanging out with other parents in the park.
Our house is full and busy most of the time but I always have my bedroom to escape to if I need.

Page 1 of 1