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Kiwi13

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 6:48 pm

Really. Why would you do that?

Think before you cause serious damage to a fellow Jew.

And with that, goodbye.

Stars

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 6:51 pm

Omg whoever did that should be banned from imamother immediately

sushilover

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 6:51 pm

WHAT??? I'm horrified!
You did not deserve this!

Terrible terrible

NechaMom

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 6:54 pm

Are you sure your ex didn’t get access to imamother and checks your posts on his own?
I mean, it’s really not complicated to do that! You’re being extremely open about your story here. This is one place where I’d recommend you use the anonymous feature more often.
I’m so sorry for everything you’re going through!!
You don’t deserve any additional stress!

Kiwi13

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 6:57 pm

NechaMom wrote:

He told me he received screenshots. Then he made a series of threats.

NechaMom

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:00 pm

Kiwi13 wrote:

He told me he received screenshots. Then he made a series of threats.

Again, he would never admit that he got access.
Hard to believe any poster here is interested in getting involved in such a nasty way.
Keep your mind open that it’s most likely him reading it on his own. Even without logging in, there’s so much to read. Pick and choose what you want out there on the internet and what you’d rather do privately IRL.
I’m sorry about the threats!
You don’t deserve any of this!

hodeez

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:01 pm

My gosh I'm sorry! Who on here would even have his contact info??

BH Yom Yom

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:02 pm

Horrible. Uch, I’m so sorry that happened. Majorly not okay.

Kiwi13

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:02 pm

NechaMom wrote:

Lesson learned. The funny thing is, virtually none of it was about him. He and I had been amicable for a while. This is kind of out of nowhere.

Kiwi13

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:02 pm

hodeez wrote:

My gosh I'm sorry! Who on here would even have his contact info??

My assumption was friends of his.

Blessing1

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:03 pm

Kiwi13 wrote:

Lesson learned. The funny thing is, virtually none of it was about him. He and I had been amicable for a while. This is kind of out of nowhere.

Oy hope it's not a relative of his that's a poster here & wants to instigate something.

Busybee5

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:04 pm

This is horrible!! Stooping to the lowest level, sick thing to do. I'm so sorry ❣️

NechaMom

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:04 pm

Kiwi13 wrote:

Lesson learned. The funny thing is, virtually none of it was about him. He and I had been amicable for a while. This is kind of out of nowhere.

The internet is not a safe place! Sad

cbg

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:06 pm

So sorry about this
But out of pure curiosity I googled your screen name and your post came up
Would he know your screen name

NechaMom

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:09 pm

cbg wrote:

So sorry about this
But out of pure curiosity I googled your screen name and your post came up
Would he know your screen name

And it’s not even in a private forum.
So he doesn’t have to be a member here to read it!

Kiwi13

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:10 pm

cbg wrote:

So sorry about this
But out of pure curiosity I googled your screen name and your post came up
Would he know your screen name

Probably. I didn’t hide it from him when we were married. He didn’t care. Called this site “ImaYenta.com”

NechaMom

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 7:15 pm

Kiwi13 wrote:

Probably. I didn’t hide it from him when we were married. He didn’t care. Called this site “ImaYenta.com”

So you got your answer.
He has direct access to read anything you post here.
It’s actually in your favor that he told you he got a hold of it (by possibly fabricating a story about screenshots).
In the future you will only post something you’re 100% comfortable with him reading.

schoolbus

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 8:29 pm

Maybe ask Yael if she can change your username if that might help

DVOM

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 8:30 pm

Unpopular opinion and a risk assessment:

Personal conflicts are tricky. Divorce is probably the trickiest. I love you Kiwi, but I would imagine your ex husband has a very different perspective on....well....lots of things.

His mom could be on here. His sisters. His best friends' wives. They could be reading ever word you write. You've shared lots of personal detail here. What would you do if you felt your brother, your son, your dear friend was being misrepresented? Lied about?

If it was my brother, my son, my friend, being portrayed here as a deadbeat dad, an emotionally or physically absent father, what would I do? What would I do if I felt that portrayal of him was false, or if I felt it could hurt him in some way? I really don't know.

I think the moral of the story here is that posting any information about other people ("my mother in law, my sister, my kid, my ex...") on imamother should be done with extreme sensitivity and caution. You just don't know who's reading it. Very possibly, it could get back to the person you've written about.

As a newer poster I was pretty loosy-goosy in my posts. I've gotten so much more cautious. Imamother is a great place to vent and get advice about sensitive relationships and situations. You really have to be smart about what you post under your screen name though.

zoom

Mon, Apr 03 2023, 8:52 pm

Im so sorry kiwi.
That sounds so raw.

They should have a security policy on here that you cant take screenshots.
Like the banking apps.
I also noticed it on kosher.com.

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