Home
Log in / Sign Up
    Private Messages   Advanced Search   Rules   New User Guide   FAQ   Advertise   Contact Us  
Forum -> Parenting our children
I don’t have patience to my kids



Post new topic   Reply to topic View latest: 24h 48h 72h

amother
OP


 

Post Wed, Jun 07 2023, 12:27 pm
I’m so embarrassed to say it but it’s true. They’re so sweet and not especially difficult, but I just don’t have patience to play with them. It’s so hard for me especially when they can’t play outside and I have to entertain them at home. I also find it so hard when they are off from school.

Please help me change this feeling. I want to be able to look forward to spending time with them and playing with them. I want to be happy to see them come home from school. I’m a horrible mom and I want to change desperately.
Back to top

amother
Chambray


 

Post Wed, Jun 07 2023, 1:01 pm
Do they go to school and/or do you work?
Back to top

amother
OP


 

Post Wed, Jun 07 2023, 2:55 pm
amother Chambray wrote:
Do they go to school and/or do you work?


Yes they go to school, no, I don’t work. Which makes it even more sad because it’s not like I don’t have my space during the day. Please help me.
Back to top

amother
Yellow


 

Post Wed, Jun 07 2023, 2:58 pm
I’m the same. Honestly, some people just don’t have patience to kids. I accept myself, give myself breaks, try to fake it for my kids sake but I can’t change my personality and won’t suddenly have patience to kids from one day to the next.
Back to top

amother
Daffodil


 

Post Wed, Jun 07 2023, 3:00 pm
How’s your mental health?
Back to top

thegiver




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Feb 25 2024, 11:51 pm
This is a late reply but you are normal! It is hard raising kids and we want instant results—grow up already! Go to sleep! Go to school!

Patience means plan to do things that you can also enjoy together while they are around. For me it meant today even though I really wanted to go to the park before sunset, when my child couldn’t find his shoe that meant Hashem had other plans. When I take care of myself and feel fulfilled in other ways it’s easier for me to be patient with the kids.

Patience. Take deep breaths. Plan for flexibility. Stay in the moment. Have lots of toys at home (the less pieces the better) so children can be happily preoccupied.

It’s not your job to entertain but you can have moments of bonding together each day.

And of course Nachat brings noach. When you praise them the dynamic in the house becomes happier.

Play music to release your tension around them. Have bonding rituals such as dance to music or walks together.
Back to top

lilytee




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Feb 26 2024, 12:18 am
This is an old thread.
Back to top

amother
Currant


 

Post Mon, Feb 26 2024, 1:08 am
I can really really relate to this.

My 3 year old son goes to playgroup and I work during the day. So it's really only a few hours together of 1 on 1 time, but I find myself struggling.

He's not the type of kid who engages in solo play for long periods of time (like my nephew who can play with Legos for like 30+ minutes and be totally entertained and enjoy it).

I never know what to do with him? It's too cold to go to the park... But staying home is boring and since he doesn't play with toys it's kind of like I need to provide him entertainment but I'm a boring person, I giess lol.

My mental health is good bh, and I know I'm a great mom in so many ways... But somehow the few hours together with him feels stressful.

Maybe I need to Google ideas for some age appropriate ways to interact with him?

OP I feel you, and I resonated with your post a lot.
Back to top

amother
Currant


 

Post Mon, Feb 26 2024, 1:10 am
lilytee wrote:
This is an old thread.


Oh I didn't realize, it just popped up on the bottom of the web page.

I'm glad I stumbled upon it though. Makes me feel less alone to see someone else going through the same thing as me.
Back to top

Light1234




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Feb 26 2024, 1:41 am
I used to feel like this totally and what helped me was I integrated my favorite hobbies into playtime. For ex if I really liked to bake then suddenly that is what we would do together. If I felt in the mood to listen to music I put music in the background while we were playing and I could tune in to it and recharge. Or have my gf on speaker phone. Or my fave shiur. Or the news. Basically I needed to appeal to my adult self while being with kids. It just helped me expand my patience and I don't think the kids really notice.
Back to top
Page 1 of 1 Recent Topics




Post new topic   Reply to topic    Forum -> Parenting our children

Related Topics Replies Last Post
Looking for a size 1x slip, hosiery stores don’t carry it
by amother
4 Yesterday at 4:28 pm View last post
by cnc
Big kids shoes online under 50
by amother
2 Yesterday at 4:25 pm View last post
Help- ADHD meds young kids
by amother
9 Yesterday at 10:02 am View last post
Please recommend most effective sunscreen for adults/kids
by amother
5 Thu, Apr 11 2024, 10:12 pm View last post
Help, flying with little kids
by amother
22 Thu, Apr 11 2024, 3:54 pm View last post