At what age do you buy a chinuch set?

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At what age do you buy a chinuch set?

12%

[ 4 ]

15%

[ 5 ]

28%

[ 9 ]

[ 2 ]

28%

[ 9 ]

Younger than 4

[ 3 ]

Total Votes : 32

amother

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 10:47 am

See poll
Also at what age do they get their own one not chinuch set?

amother

Magenta

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 10:49 am

Not sure what you mean by chinuch. It's a kosher lulav and esrog. Ds was 3 last year, I said he doesn't need (or know) yet, dh bought one anyway.

This year he is asking where is hadasim are lol.

amother

Orchid

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 10:50 am

amother Magenta wrote:

Not sure what you mean by chinuch. It's a kosher lulav and esrog. Ds was 3 last year, I said he doesn't need (or know) yet, dh bought one anyway.

This year he is asking where is hadasim are lol.

My mom used to give 2-3 yo kids a lemon and a celery stalk lol they were delighted!

amother

Magenta

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 10:51 am

amother Orchid wrote:

My mom used to give 2-3 yo kids a lemon and a celery stalk lol they were delighted!

Hysterical! Ds this year was $10 for both. Yesterday already. Let's see if he convinces dh for hadasim.

amother

Starflower

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 10:53 am

When the child is able to go shul and sit/daven nicely. For one kid it was 6 for another 9.

mha3484

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 11:02 am

Oops I read the question wrong.

I buy a lower quality chinuch set and my 4.5 year old girl and my two boys under 9 will use it to bentch lulav.
Once my boys are 9 I will get them their own in a tier higher.

I think once they start school like 4-5 years old they should do the mitzah with a real lulav/esrog and my husband prefers they not use his since once year it got made posul the first day of yomtov. So I buy a low quality chinuch set.

balance

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 2:15 pm

Why is it to do with age?
I buy them a set when they are old enough to go to shul and participate in the hoshanos.

amother

Mulberry

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 3:05 pm

Interesting.
In Dh family you get a set when you get married.

SuperWify

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 3:09 pm

My DH took my 6 yo today to get his first set and… they came home with the stuffed toy one! Son thought it was more exciting. lol.

keym

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 4:27 pm

We buy them their own sets when they're old enough to go to shul and shake during Hallel and Hoshanos.
Somewhere between 6 and 9.

amother

Viola

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 4:29 pm

amother Mulberry wrote:

Interesting.
In Dh family you get a set when you get married.

How do boys over bar mitzvah shake lulav in shul?

farm

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 6:10 pm

When they are old enough to stay in Shul and daven majority of RH and Yom Kippur then they are also old enough for their own 4 minim and machzarim

amother

Cerise

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 6:12 pm

What’s a chimuch set?

amother

Aqua

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 6:14 pm

We don't.

amother

Heather

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 6:19 pm

About age 6. Before that I get a posul.one and a makeshift lulav.

amother

Amaryllis

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:23 pm

Never. We do chinuch by letting them shake dh set (under supervision). Then when they hit bar mitzvah, they get their own set.

pause

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:33 pm

No choice in the poll for never.

Our sons use DH's set and will get their own when they get married.

keym

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:42 pm

Those who don't buy for boys over 10/11.
Im just curious.
Do your boys beg you for their own? Or try to buy their own? What do they do by Hallel and Hoshanos? Just say it and walk with Arba Minim?
Im not judging or criticizing.
My Rav is very insistent that boys over 10 who are in shul by Hallel and Hoshanos should have their own kosher set. From a halachic perspective.
It's just surprising to me.

Eta that we are also makpid not to use Pasul sets, or give just a lulav or a lemon or something. Our Rav holds that if they ask, we either say yes or no. No shtick

amother

Sunflower

Thu, Sep 28 2023, 7:47 pm

My oldest just got his first set this year. He started sitting in shul for enough of the davening so we decided to do it. He is almost 10. It wasn't decided on age but shul status.

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