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amother

Mon, Oct 02 2023, 9:53 am

I will try to respond to most questions, but not respond if it's too revealing of who I am.
Other children of BT are free to post here too

amother

Lotus

Mon, Oct 02 2023, 9:55 am

What is your status?(what do you consider yourself)
What type of shidduchim did you request/were ready to you ?
Do you feel your situation got you less suggestions?

amother

Bisque

Mon, Oct 02 2023, 9:57 am

So funny because most people I know/ grew up with in my community their parents are BT. I grew up with it being such a norm.

amother

Mon, Oct 02 2023, 10:01 am

amother Lotus wrote:

What is your status?(what do you consider yourself)
What type of shidduchim did you request/were ready to you ?
Do you feel your situation got you less suggestions?

I am yeshivish

I was redt to children of OOT FFBs, children of BTs, children of JPF parents from more modern/less affiliated background, children of BT and geirim

All on a spectrum of yeshivish, some more than others

I don't know if my situation got me less suggestions... I'm a girl...
My brother got tons of suggestions, most are daughters of FFBs

amother

Mon, Oct 02 2023, 10:01 am

amother Bisque wrote:

So funny because most people I know/ grew up with in my community their parents are BT. I grew up with it being such a norm.

Yes very normal where I grew up, not as normal in imamother world

essie14

Mon, Oct 02 2023, 10:37 am

amother OP wrote:

Yes very normal where I grew up, not as normal in imamother world

So normal where I grew up, I wouldn't even think it's an issue.
No one cared at all.
I'm thinking of at least a dozen friends of mine who married children of FFB, many married into families of yichus.
A total non issue.

amother

Bisque

Mon, Oct 02 2023, 10:39 am

amother OP wrote:

Yes very normal where I grew up, not as normal in imamother world

Really? Maybe in chassidish circles, but I don't think most places its abnormal.

amother

Viola

Mon, Oct 02 2023, 10:40 am

Do you still have more or less the same hashkafa as your parents, or did you shift. If shifted, then how? What about your siblings?

amother

Mon, Oct 02 2023, 10:43 am

essie14 wrote:

Oh! I was also redt to a boy with real yichus, (father is a Rav and grandfather wad a famous RY of artscroll biography) but the family had some other issues, so we didn't pursue it.

One of the boys I went out with, his father is a choshuv Rosh Yeshiva out of town. But the boy wasn't as yeshivish as I would have felt comfortable with.

But I disagree, Essie, my siblings and I were generally not redt to families with yichus, besides for the boy I mentioned above. Mostly BT children.

amother

Mon, Oct 02 2023, 10:47 am

amother Viola wrote:

Do you still have more or less the same hashkafa as your parents, or did you shift. If shifted, then how? What about your siblings?

My parents shifted more and more to the right as the years went on and their kids got older, but never really yeshivish. More like between very frum JPF to Yeshivish.

Siblings range anywhere from very yeshivish, to regular yeshivish (like me), to light yeshivish, to JPF, to OTD but healthy and respectful