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amother
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Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 1:34 pm
I work for a non-Jewish company. I am looking for wording to politely decline this lunch invite, we are a small group so it is about 5 ppl, I know I am not going (that is not up for debate), just want to say it in the nicest way possible. Since there are sooo many date options, it is really hard not to look like I just don't want to go (which is the case), but either way, I want to word it as best as possible.

From my manager:
I would like us to have lunch together to celebrate our successes and to give my thanks for your hard work this past year. Below are some dates and some possible locations that I found online, but I’m open to suggestions for other places.

Please RESPOND TO ME by Monday 12/04 with your availability on those dates and the location, then I will let you know the common selection.

12/06, 12/07, 12/08, 12/12, 12/13 – Manhattan

12/14 – Queens
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amother
Lightgreen


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 1:45 pm
Thank you so much for the invitation.
Although it is really such a wonderful idea, unfortunately due to personal reasons I will be unable to attend.

Thank you,
Jane doe
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amother
OP


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 1:47 pm
Thanks, love the wording except the personal reasons. Any other ideas?
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amother
Milk


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 1:49 pm
There’s really no graceful way to decline without giving a real reason. If it’s about kosher then just be honest.
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Success10




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 1:51 pm
Do they not know you're an Orthodox Jew? Whatever you write, I think they're going to get the hint.
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amother
Dimgray


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 1:56 pm
IMHO, this is what AI is for. I prefer Google bard when writing emails.

You tell it what you want, it gives you a draft, you give a feedback on the draft, and you can refine it till it says what you want to say professionally.
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monseymom25




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 1:59 pm
Why don’t you want to go? If we understand that we may be able to help you better.
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amother
Lightgreen


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:01 pm
amother OP wrote:
Thanks, love the wording except the personal reasons. Any other ideas?


Maybe say:
Due to certain reasons...
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amother
OP


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:01 pm
I don’t think he knows abt orthodox or kosher, not sure what he thinks, my previous managers all knew abt it. But honestly I decided yrs ago not to go out to eat w co-workers anymore after a bad experience. How does the following sound?

Thank you so much for the kind invitation! Unfortunately, I can’t attend, but I hope everyone has a great time!
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singleagain




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:05 pm
If it's only 5 people they really try to want to make it work. You may have to explain that you don't want to socialize outside of work hours.
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amother
Milk


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:13 pm
amother OP wrote:
I don’t think he knows abt orthodox or kosher, not sure what he thinks, my previous managers all knew abt it. But honestly I decided yrs ago not to go out to eat w co-workers anymore after a bad experience. How does the following sound?

Thank you so much for the kind invitation! Unfortunately, I can’t attend, but I hope everyone has a great time!


That’s fine for an acquaintance’s birthday party not a team lunch at work. You need to give your boss a reason.
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amother
Burntblack


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:19 pm
I've also stopped attending these events.

Once I went to something and helped myself to a cup of apple juice with an Ou symbol only to find out that someone made a treif fruit cocktail and thought using an empty apple juice container was a good idea. I was furious with them and myself.

I just say sorry I can't attend. No need to elaborate.
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amother
Salmon


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:20 pm
amother OP wrote:
I don’t think he knows abt orthodox or kosher, not sure what he thinks, my previous managers all knew abt it. But honestly I decided yrs ago not to go out to eat w co-workers anymore after a bad experience. How does the following sound?

Thank you so much for the kind invitation! Unfortunately, I can’t attend, but I hope everyone has a great time!

You should add that you are touched/appreciate her noticing your work and her appreciation of it!
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amother
Milk


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:24 pm
Just add for religious reasons.
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amother
Peony


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:27 pm
amother Milk wrote:
Just add for religious reasons.
It’s not for religious reasons though.
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amother
OP


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:46 pm
It sort of is religious reasons. If it was considered totally np to socialize with non-jewish (+male) co-workers then I would never have stopped attending.
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amother
Salmon


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:58 pm
amother OP wrote:
It sort of is religious reasons. If it was considered totally np to socialize with non-jewish (+male) co-workers then I would never have stopped attending.

Just be prepared that if you say for religious reasons they may ask you to elaborate and try to figure out ways to accommodate.
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amother
Moccasin


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 2:59 pm
amother OP wrote:
It sort of is religious reasons. If it was considered totally np to socialize with non-jewish (+male) co-workers then I would never have stopped attending.

I’ve had this issue and responded due to lack of childcare I won’t be able to attend
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amother
Impatiens


 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 3:20 pm
It’s lunch and on the clock, so lack of childcare is completely inappropriate.

Thank you so much for the invitation. I appreciate your thinking of me, but due to my kosher dietary restrictions I regretfully declined.
Have a wonderful lunch,
Chaya Sara
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singleagain




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Dec 03 2023, 3:21 pm
amother Impatiens wrote:
It’s lunch and on the clock, so lack of childcare is completely inappropriate.

Thank you so much for the invitation. I appreciate your thinking of me, but due to my kosher dietary restrictions I regretfully declined.
Have a wonderful lunch,
Chaya Sara


And if the boss comes back with

Please tell us where we can get kosher food for you from?

What will you say now?
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