Matching siblings | Imamother

amother

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 6:16 am

My oldest is a 9 yo boy. Is it ok to still have him matching his younger siblings? We are not chassidish ( I think chassidish match until older). He doesn't care what he wears.

amother

Cerulean

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:15 am

I match my toddlers, I wouldn’t match big kids unless we were going through an airport or to an amusement park (and then it’s for safety)

Busybee5

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:23 am

I like to match colours when I can but I don't drive myself mad about it.
How old is your next son under the 9 year old? If 6 or 7 then I'd still match them.
I'm not chassidish

amother

Caramel

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:30 am

I don’t understand the matching at all.
Is it to show that they are new outfits from this year as opposed to s’more outgrown and purchased by you - not hand me downs?
Is it showing kids the importance of confirming as opposed to being an individual?
They have uniforms for school. Let them pick what they like other times.

amother

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:33 am

amother Caramel wrote:

My boys don't have any uniforms.
During the week they aren't matching.
I'm laughing, why all the negativity?
Matching just looks nice to me.
My boys don't care or notice what they wear.

shabbatiscoming

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:37 am

amother OP wrote:

The next son is 7.
Also what age do boys start wearing white shirts on shabbos?

I know people who put white shirts on 3 year olds and I know people who still have 10 year olds in colorful polo shirts.
There is no one way.

amother

Whitewash

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:40 am

amother Caramel wrote:

Many boys don't care what they wear, it depends on the kid.

My son has no preferences at all, except that at age 9 he wanted to start wearing a suit on Shabbos. So that was the end of Shabbos matching.

I still do some matching weekday outfits (he's 10 now).

I guess I will phase it out soon though I can't say I won't miss it.

So regarding OP - if your son is happy to go along with it then why not? I would definitely do it for weekday if you like matching (I also do and not chassidish.) But, I think this is also the age where they often want to wear a white shirt already on Shabbos.

amother

Maple

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:49 am

amother Caramel wrote:

Oh honey we do it because we like how it looks- no need to be so bitter about it.

To OP: I love matching but yes I'd stop at 9 and I'd start with white shirts around 6 or 7

Busybee5

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:51 am

amother OP wrote:

The next son is 7.
Also what age do boys start wearing white shirts on shabbos?

I'd match them, and I did when my boys were those ages. I think it's adorable personally. 9 is still young.
I put white shirts on at about age 10 but it also depends on how big your son is. Mine is tiny for his age so I do both white shirts and with a pattern or other smart clothes.

amother

Daylily

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:55 am

amother Maple wrote:

Oh honey we do it because we like how it looks- no need to be so bitter about it.

To OP: I love matching but yes I'd stop at 9 and I'd start with white shirts around 6 or 7

Why do you like it? Like what’s the appeal of having your children dressed the same?

amother

Nasturtium

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:55 am

At that ages I tend to buy matching for convenience but they pick out their own clothes in the morning so usually they don't match on a given day.

I only enforce matching if I want to take photos or we're going to a family event (rarely).

We're chassidish.

amother

Pink

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 7:58 am

In my community boys in elementary school wear white shirts and dark pants on shabbos. Polos and dark pants during the week. Or button downs and dark pants. Can't match any more. They do wear sweaters but not once they wear suits.

HonesttoGod

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 8:01 am

I find it easy sometimes to buy matching. As in if I see a sweater I’ll just grab it in both sizds for my boys/girls.
I generally don’t match opposite gender, maybe coordinate if I have patience.

amother

Maple

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 8:04 am

amother Daylily wrote:

Why do you like it? Like what’s the appeal of having your children dressed the same?

Are you being serious?
Why do you like heels?
Why do you like jewelry?
I can go on and on.
If you don't like it you can keep your not nice thoughts to yourself.
That's how I was taught ya know...

amother

Coral

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 8:07 am

I start with white shirts when they ask for it or when most of the boys their age are wearing white shirts. It’s very community dependent.

amother

Fri, Feb 09 2024, 8:07 am

HonesttoGod wrote:

I find it easy sometimes to buy matching. As in if I see a sweater I’ll just grab it in both sizds for my boys/girls.
I generally don’t match opposite gender, maybe coordinate if I have patience.

Yes
So much easier