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Do you bring a hostess gift if going to family for Shabbos?



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scruffy




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 7:52 am
Wondering what others do.

Not referring to parents but rather if you are going to an aunt, sibling or sibling in law, cousin, etc.
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amother
Mint


 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 7:53 am
Yes to anyone besides parents
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amother
Tan


 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 7:53 am
Of course! They are going out of their way to host you. Why would you not show hakaras hatov?
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amother
Impatiens


 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 7:53 am
Yes. Nothing expensive. A choc or candy platter.
A gift certificate for a manicure if I know the wife would appreciate it.
A cookbook. Etc

Unless I am bringing food.
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amother
DarkCyan


 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 7:54 am
Yes to everyone besides immediate family and grandparents
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mom923




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 7:54 am
Always try to bring something. Even something small like some popcorn for kids to nosh on. Shows some appreciation even if you’re family.
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scruffy




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 7:55 am
amother Tan wrote:
Of course! They are going out of their way to host you. Why would you not show hakaras hatov?


Some have told me not to bring again, "you're family, there's no need"

So I was wondering if it's not wanted.
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amother
DarkPurple


 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 8:13 am
I generally take home baked goods. Even to my parents & in laws.
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613mitzvahgirl




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 8:15 am
We do, even to parents and siblings.
It’s such a great feeling to be appreciative.
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amother
Tan


 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 8:19 am
scruffy wrote:
Some have told me not to bring again, "you're family, there's no need"

So I was wondering if it's not wanted.


It doesn't have to be anything big - a platter of homemade cookies, some chocolate or candy if I don't have time to bake, or for those that I know love flowers, I tell them ahead of time I am bringing flowers for Shabbos so they know not to buy. I host a lot as well and always appreciate getting soemthing from the guests to acknowledge the work put into hosting, even for family. There may not be a NEED, but it's still a NICE thing to do.
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SuperWify




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 8:23 am
A small gift like a havdalah candle or diffuser.
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amother
DarkCyan


 

Post Fri, Feb 16 2024, 8:23 am
With family so nice not to feel the need to bring, packing up takes time and energy just getting there is a whole thing unless u live nearby

If I had to spend extra money on gifts it doesn’t feel like family kinda feels like being a guest and coming from a Hungarian gift giving home just my mom grandmothers would say totally not necessary and mean it..

We bring photos in nice frames occasionally or birthday gifts but not shabbos guest gifts
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