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amother
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 Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:26 pm
Dh and I always disagree on this question.
When going out to eat at a pizza place or other casual dining places, do you clear your table before leaving?
I feel like it’s not polite to walk out and leave your crumpled tissues, cups and empty plates or trays. I always grab my trash, sweep the crumbs off the table, wipe the spills and drop off trays.
Dh thinks it’s nice to clear your table but not expected and even pretentious. He claims the waiters are there for that reason.
What do you think?
(Ps this is not an issue in frum society lol, just putting it in a forum so people can respond anonymously.)
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amother
Salmon
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:27 pm
Yes. Always unless I am in a crazy rush...
Mainly because it's mentchlich
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cupcake123
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:27 pm
I usually do.
Once in a while I'll be with all the kids alone and this one tantrums that one needs something... I'll just run out lol
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amother
Bluebell
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:28 pm
Of course! I don’t spray it or wipe it down (which is what I expect the staff to do)
Husband and I are in complete agreement
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amother
Mintgreen
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:28 pm
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It’s the menchlich thing to do.
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Genius
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:28 pm
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I might put it all in the tray, but I don’t clean it. Unless I’m in an especially gracious mood. It’s not expected in the eateries I frequent. Isn’t this why I pay four bucks a slice?
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amother
Clematis
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:29 pm
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If it’s the type of restaurant where my food is brought to me then no. If I have to get the food myself then I also clean up myself, though I usually just dump the trash (not wipe it down)
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amother
Celeste
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:29 pm
Definitely.
At a nicer place they clear for you. At a pizza place it’s mentschlich to do a basic cleanup.
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hodeez
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:30 pm
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Of course!!! I've only ever left it when in a serious rush with a crying kid or something
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mha3484
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:30 pm
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Yes always. If its not a waiter restaurant we clean up after ourselves.
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Goody2shoes
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:30 pm
Expected or not, I felt it isn't menshlich to leave your mess for someone else to clean up. It's not like it takes major effort to spill your tray in gd trash anyway.
Just like I don't appreciate when the people in my house leave their mess for me to clean up.
Last edited by Goody2shoes on Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:32 pm; edited 1 time in total
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:31 pm
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mommyhood
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:33 pm
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Most of the ones I go to it’s expected. There’s big garbage cans with space on top for the trays and everything else is disposable and goes in the garbage. One place we go to on occasion is a bit nicer, uses real dishes and there doesn’t seem to be anyplace you would clear to so we leave everything on the table.
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amother
Chocolate
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:33 pm
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I always clear my garbage at fast food places. If it's handed to you on a tray over a counter as opposed to having waitstaff bring plates to the table, it's your responsibility.
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613mitzvahgirl
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:33 pm
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Definitely we clean up. I’m so sorry that this shouldn’t even be a question.
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amother
RosePink
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:34 pm
Of course
As a former restaurant owner I think it’s the mentschlich thing to do
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amother
Hibiscus
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:35 pm
I always do. My kids always find it funny, they say we paid for the service as well as the food.
But it doesn't feel right to leave the mess for someone else.
And yes my kids laugh but I do feel it's a good teaching/midos opportunity.
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ittsamother
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:37 pm
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We always clean up at bagel, pizza, and fast food places. And if my kid drops something big on the floor, I'll pick that up too. We feel that's the mentchlich thing to do.
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amother
Birch
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Tue, Feb 20 2024, 5:37 pm
No way.
He's got five guys back there sitting on stools, waiting, and you want me to clean up? After paying $30 for a plain pie?
No.
I don't get this "mentschlich" pretense. The staff is paid to do this!!!
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