My almost 10 year old still wetting her bed

amother

Tue, Mar 26 2024, 11:38 am

My almost 10 year old still wetting her bed, any ideas or recommendations on how to stop her? She is so frustrated and embarrassed anytime we have guest over or she going for sleepovers!

amother

Oak

Tue, Mar 26 2024, 11:43 am

Both my 14 year old boys wet their bed until recently. One of them takes desmopressin nightly. Speak to your pediatrician about it. Almost all of my siblings wet their bed until teenage years.. but they all outgrew it. Most important thing is not to shame her. It’s not her fault. My mother used to shame my siblings… I am very careful about it..

Edit: btw I’m not saying that you shame her! I’m Just super sensitive about it because of my childhood experience so I figured I’ll share that…

amother

Slategray ↓

Tue, Mar 26 2024, 12:39 pm

We used the Dr. Sagie Jacob method therapee
https://www.bedwettingtherapy.com/
It's a device on the kids alonge with videos and a chart. I was very skeptical but desperate. Once the child got hang of the system and he filled out the computer chart by himself (rather than me documenting the process, it help immediately. He never wet the bed again.

amother

Midnight

Tue, Mar 26 2024, 12:52 pm

I used the Bedwetting alarm from Amazon and it worked in 2 weeks! Was so so skeptical and majorly shocked by the results. My child (also 9) was soaking through pull-ups and went to completely dry in two weeks. Hasn’t had an accident since. This is a child who is a really deep sleeper. It went from beeping 3 times a night the first 2-3 days, down to 1 time for next week and a half and suddenly it just stopped! Was surreal!

But I think your child must really want it to work and take full responsibility. My Child begged me to try the alarm because I wasn’t so keen at first. I prepared extra clothes for them to change. They rarely had to wake me. Also I did panty under pull up to avoid getting sheets wet. Can’t hurt to try and I don’t think you need an expensive alarm they all work the same.

Good luck.

amotherof5 ↓

Tue, Mar 26 2024, 1:18 pm

Thank you all, I would never shame her Chas veshulem, and don’t even let my other kids speak about it or shame her of course it’s not her fault, I pity her so much and she is so desperate, didn’t want to go the medication route, I’ll try the device or the therapy thank you all.

amother

Mintgreen

Tue, Apr 16 2024, 10:40 pm

I'm responding to an older thread because I just helped someone else with kids bed wetting and feel like this could help alot of people. A few of my kids were late bed wetters and we tried everything includiing Dr. Sagie and desmopressin. While both do work to a degree....I want to share what finally worked in the long run:
We went to a top pediatric urologist (I think dr schlussel in Hackensack) who's PA gave us clear directions that work if you follow all the instructions.
1. Make sure the child isn't constipated. They should be having a bowel movement everyday.
2. No carbonated beverages or sugar drinks at all EVER.
3. No sugar snacks or fruit after supper.
4. No drinking water 2-3 hours before bedtime. ( could take a small sip of water)

Works amazingly well! Eventually they could ease up and the body gets used to not bedwetting. Hope this helps alot of people!

smss

Tue, Apr 16 2024, 10:59 pm

From what I've learned, the by far most likely reason for this is constipation- even if she's going every day and not complaining that it hurts. An abdominal xray can confirm.

amother

Blueberry

Tue, Apr 16 2024, 11:35 pm

Make an appointment with a urologist and get a prescription for desmopressin, like another amother said. It's a game changer and worked when no other method did.

↑ amotherof5 ↓

Wed, Apr 17 2024, 12:10 am

Thank you so much the last 1 1/2 week she actually getting up dry burach hashem! But makes sense constipation was a reason

amother

Candycane

Wed, Apr 17 2024, 6:43 am

amother Blueberry wrote:

Make an appointment with a urologist and get a prescription for desmopressin, like another amother said. It's a game changer and worked when no other method did.

I second this for anyone having this issues. I used it for a few of my kids, bh they all outgrew it. No need to suffer in the meantime!

amother

Charcoal ↓

Wed, Apr 17 2024, 6:57 am

My eight year old was still bedding, I tried biofeedback, didn’t help, probably because I didn’t do it for long enough. Then someone told me about this product DRYEASY Bedwetting Alarm with...
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00J.....share

I was very skeptical , I didn’t think it would work, but it did!!! Three weeks later and he was dry!! No more bedwetting. By the second week I put a pull-up under the panty and alarm so I wouldn’t have to change linens so often.

amother

Lemon ↓

Wed, Apr 17 2024, 7:24 am

I third the alarm! It worked for 3 of my Kids, but u need to give it more than 2 weeks... Give at least 2 months. Also kid has to be motivated

yellowroses

Wed, Apr 17 2024, 7:55 am

amother Charcoal wrote:

My five year old still needs pull ups. He would love to get rid of them. Is he too young for this or any other technique? Often bedwetting is genetic. My husband has quite a few brothers that struggled with bedwetting till they were much older.

sweetpotato ↓

Wed, Apr 17 2024, 8:07 am

Have you had your daughter checked for sleep apnea? It can be neurological or obstructive, caused by enlarged tonsils and adenoids. Because apnea interferes with sleep due to oxygen restriction and it can cause bed wetting.

My daughter was almost 8 and still wetting the bed most nights and it turned out she was having sleep apnea due to tonsils and adenoids. After she had them removed the bedwetting totally resolved (and she was getting much better sleep). Worth checking with an ENT or sleep specialist.

amother

↑ Lemon

Wed, Apr 17 2024, 8:49 am

yellowroses wrote:

They say it works for 7+ but if your son is mature and motivated it might be worth a try. For the first 2 weeks move to a private bedroom with him so you could wake up and help him with the alarm

amother

↑ Charcoal

Wed, Apr 17 2024, 9:49 am

yellowroses wrote:

Should be good for a 5 year old as well, doesn’t hurt to try

amother

↑ Slategray

Wed, Apr 17 2024, 10:32 am

amother Lemon wrote:

They say it works for 7+ but if your son is mature and motivated it might be worth a try. For the first 2 weeks move to a private bedroom with him so you could wake up and help him with the alarm

It's,worth the try if you are ready. Be ready to be up nights. Be calm and positive about it. It took my child time, but once his brain "got it," bedwetting was over for good bh.

amother

Yolk

Wed, Apr 17 2024, 10:34 am

My 10 year old used dr. Sagie after 3 months he stopped completely. It’s been 5 months without alarm with not one accident B”H want to use it for my younger kid. For us it’s “genetic” but they’re capable of learning how to hold it at night my family members 20 years ago wet the bed till 13-14. With the alarm it cld stop age 8-10 depending on maturity of child worth it.