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amother
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Post Thu, Apr 11 2024, 4:55 am
I’m at my wits end, my 11 year old son has extreme anger issues. Anything he is upset about he will fly into a rage. He throws objects across the house, my walls are full of marks, I feel like my house is getting destroyed from his temper. This morning, he was angry about something and he threw a stuffed animal at me and it landed in my eye. Somehow he always takes his anger out on me Sad
I worry he will grow up abusive.

I also think my husband plays an issue, he’s extremely critical to my son, well, critical to all my kids but my son is the oldest so he expects more from him. And I think that plays an effect in my sons behavior. I don’t know.
I hate parenting a difficult kid, I hate my husband, he’s so clueless and rigid. Life is just so bleak for me now, I feel so trapped and miserable and yes I take a small dose of an antidepressant.
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oneofakind




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Apr 11 2024, 5:04 am
Your son needs therapy with someone who will work with your husband and you as well. It's not hopeless but it needs to be taken care of.
Many hugs
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amother
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Post Thu, Apr 11 2024, 5:21 am
Yes he sees a therapist. I usually Take him and speak to the therapist on my own, not my husband. It’s a good idea for us to go together though. She’s a local non Jewish therapist but my son seems to like her..
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amother
Amaryllis


 

Post Thu, Apr 11 2024, 5:24 am
amother OP wrote:
Yes he sees a therapist. I usually Take him and speak to the therapist on my own, not my husband. It’s a good idea for us to go together though. She’s a local non Jewish therapist but my son seems to like her..

My personal experience was that individual therapy without family therapy session is a waste of time.
Ask for therapy session with your son and your husband! Therapist should lead the discussion.
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amother
Oak


 

Post Thu, Apr 11 2024, 5:27 am
All 3 of you need therapy pronto.
The longer you wait the harder the repair
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amother
Forsythia


 

Post Thu, Apr 11 2024, 5:31 am
Look into High functioning ASD for both husband and son
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amother
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Post Thu, Apr 11 2024, 5:41 am
Look into High functioning ASD for both husband and son[/quote]

In the back of my mind I thought about this. My husband is very rigid and I wonder if it’s asd. Although he is social and ok at small talk.
But he doesn’t get emotions at all.
My son too seems to lack empathy
How would I find out about asd without my husband getting insulted?
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amother
RosePink


 

Post Thu, Apr 11 2024, 5:48 am
My son was like that. We tried therapy, made zero progress and wasted thousands of dollars. We put him on Zoloft and he calmed down.
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amother
Papayawhip


 

Post Thu, Apr 11 2024, 5:58 am
If you're interested in pursuing this route, you can look into pandas/pans/lyme/brain inflammation. My child's rages significantly reduced when we addressed diet, infections and inflammation.
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amother
Forsythia


 

Post Thu, Apr 11 2024, 7:49 am
amother OP wrote:
Look into High functioning ASD for both husband and son


In the back of my mind I thought about this. My husband is very rigid and I wonder if it’s asd. Although he is social and ok at small talk.
But he doesn’t get emotions at all.
My son too seems to lack empathy
How would I find out about asd without my husband getting insulted?[/quote]

Start with googling high function ASD marriage and see the prices of the puzzle click.

Google high functioning ASD in adolescence boys

No need to get an official diagnosis yet or your husbands agreeing on the diagnosis for you to get some clarity on how you can best deal with your situation
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