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Bring A gift to hosts of שבע ברכות held in restaurant



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bubbynay




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 06 2024, 11:43 am
Hi-I will be attending nephew’s wedding in Israel, please G-d. Relative from the girls side is making שבע ברכות in a restaurant. Do I bring a gift? If this were at their home I would bring a houseware item (if it were closer to home I would bring a dessert). What is the etiquette of gift giving in a restaurant situation?
Thank you!
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scruffy




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 06 2024, 11:52 am
I don't think a gift is necessary or at all expected in this scenario.
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amother
NeonBlue


 

Post Mon, May 06 2024, 11:56 am
I bring a gift for the chosson and kallah not for the host
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amother
Gardenia


 

Post Mon, May 06 2024, 11:58 am
I think it is unnecessary but very classy. You can go something small, it’s really just a token of appreciation.

If you were not at the wedding, and not already giving the C/K a gift, I would say the gift would be for them, not the thrower of the party. But I imagine you will have already given them a gift.
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bubbynay




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 06 2024, 12:51 pm
Thank you all for your answers! One less thing for me to pack/worry about.
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amother
Currant


 

Post Mon, May 06 2024, 4:22 pm
I make Sheva Brochos pretty often. I'm definitely not classy, but usually some of the older relatives, aunts for example bring along a small gift. Usually a box of chocolates or flowers or like.
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bubbynay




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 06 2024, 5:34 pm
Ok, thanks. But would someone bring flowers or candy to a restaurant?
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dilego




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, May 07 2024, 2:49 pm
Or a bottle of wine maybe
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bubbynay




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, May 07 2024, 3:05 pm
Thank you
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amother
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Post Tue, May 07 2024, 3:17 pm
dilego wrote:
Or a bottle of wine maybe

You need to ask the restaurant if they are ok with that
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bubbynay




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, May 07 2024, 6:27 pm
That’s a good point
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dilego




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, May 07 2024, 9:58 pm
You bring it wrapped in a giftbag for the host to take home. Sure you cant open it at a restaurant usually. I think
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amother
Turquoise


 

Post Tue, May 07 2024, 10:14 pm
Why would an aunt bring a gift to whoever is arranging S.B.?
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amother
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Post Tue, May 07 2024, 10:51 pm
amother Turquoise wrote:
Why would an aunt bring a gift to whoever is arranging S.B.?



the parents of the chosson/kallah (Whomever'S side is sponsoring) would give a gift to the hosts, not the aunt
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amother
Turquoise


 

Post Tue, May 07 2024, 11:04 pm
amother Dandelion wrote:
the parents of the chosson/kallah (Whomever'S side is sponsoring) would give a gift to the hosts, not the aunt

The OP says she's the aunt...
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Lemonade 2323




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, May 08 2024, 1:17 am
amother Turquoise wrote:
Why would an aunt bring a gift to whoever is arranging S.B.?


It's not unheard of for guests to bring a small gift for the host. I'm English tho, so maybe it's a British 'proper' thing to do!

It's usually older relatives who bring, the Great aunt or grandparent, rather then younger guests.

Usually a small gift like chocolates, flowers, wine or sparkling grape juice, although I've had a photo frame, diffuser or nice package of napkins. (Napkins are always appreciated).

I've only given a gift to the host when the sheva brochos is for my own child.
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bubbynay




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, May 08 2024, 4:56 am
The hosts of the שבע ברכות are the parents of the כלה, Who are my sister’s מחותנים. Regardless though, if this were in their house I would bring a gift -usually a dessert. Because this is in a restaurant and because I am in a foreign country and can not bring a dessert I wondered what people would do. I have brought wine to שבע ברכות here when it was held in a restaurant. It was up to the restaurant as to whether they allowed the outside wine.
People dont have the same customs in different locales. From what I am gathering, I don’t need to bring a gift.
Thank you all for your advice.
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